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The Power of Identity: This is Me Take it or Leave it.

The Power of Identity: This is Me Take it or Leave it.

There are women who talk about the power of identity, and there are women who have lived every uncomfortable, exhilarating, grief-filled inch of it. Yasmin London is firmly in the second group.

Yasmin [Yas] London has worn many hats: elite athlete, police officer, cyber safety expert, keynote speaker, founder, author, and now – a woman who has stepped fully into a purpose-led life.

In this episode, Yas talks with Di about the identity crisis that followed missing the Sydney 2000 Olympics at eighteen. About coming out and having to earn her place – literally changing how she looked, just to be accepted by the community she was trying to belong to. About thirteen years in the NSW Police Force and what it teaches you about human behaviour when you’re standing at the edge of a cliff with someone at 3am.

And about why she built First Movers: because women and girls are still being conditioned to wait. She’s done waiting. Yas London shares her story – take it or leave it.

 

➡️You’ll Hear :

  • Resilience and identity and what impacts us
  • Cyber safety and online harms
  • Women’s empowerment and leadership
  • Mental health and well-being in high-pressure roles
  • The importance of self-acceptance and authenticity
  • Gender bias and online harms faced by women
  • The ethos of ‘going first’ and leadership

 

Key Takeaways:

“Be the signal. Don’t wait for it.”

“Action beats good intention every day of the week.”

“In life, there’s always someone who needs to be the first to go first — so why not you?”

“What we make visible shapes what others believe is possible.”

📖 Read the full transcript of this conversation here.

FULL TRANSCRIPT:

DI GILLETT [Host] (00:02)

Hey Yas, what does power of women mean to you?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (00:07)

Gosh, the power of women, I guess I absolutely live by this phrase, but one of things that I love is that women share their insights and their practical strategies to success with each other. And on a podcast like this, it really just amplifies those messages. For me, I live by this saying that what we make visible shapes what others believe is possible.

 

And so I love any opportunity where we get to learn from each other and share our success stories so that other people can see that blueprint to break through as well.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (00:54)

Was

 

there a moment where you thought, this is me, take it or leave it? I’m Di Gillett and this is the Power Of Women Podcast and we’re a platform that showcases and celebrates the strength, resilience and achievements of women from all walks of life. And today’s guest has worn many hats, elite athlete, police officer, cyber safety expert, keynote speaker, founder, soon to be published author and now a woman.

 

who has stepped fully into a purpose-led life. Yas is the CEO of First Movers and co-founder of First Movers Media, where she equips individuals, particularly women and girls, to lead courageously, communicate with impact, and become visible forces for change in a fast-paced digital age. Joining me from Sydney, Australia, Yasmin London, welcome to the Power of Women Podcast.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (01:52)

 

I am so excited to be here, Di. Thank you so much for having me. It’s gonna be a great conversation.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (01:58)

Yes,

 

let’s start with a bit of backstory about you, could. us about growing up.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (02:06)

gosh, growing up, I had a pretty, lovely childhood, I have to admit. I grew up in the Eastern suburbs of Sydney, a pretty privileged upbringing, ⁓ you know, two loving parents, but a really, really fun upbringing as well, because we are a family of powerful women. And when I say that, let me just give you a snapshot of what that looks like. ⁓ I am one of what is now, I think a group of 15 strong.

 

women in my family. So from my great grandmother to my now ⁓ niece, we only have women in our family. We’ve never had a boy born into the family out of 15 different births over the last couple of years. So when I say, know, I grew up with a group of female cheerleaders, ⁓ I’m not kidding. ⁓ And I guess, you know, that created a pretty feisty child.

 

deaf to the word no, I was pretty independent and extroverted and I think my mum would always describe me as a kid who was bored easily which meant that I found myself in some pretty fun situations here and there as a youngster.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (03:16)

And

 

what about your knees? Stronger or on par?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (03:20)

God, look out for all of these. What they’re coming up, whether it’s my daughters, my nieces, my cousins’ kids, they’re all strong, little, fierce, independent Wonder Women. And I’m often reminded of that meme, know, that strong women may be, may we be them, may we raise them. ⁓ It’s really what’s going on, I guess, in our family at the moment. ⁓ We’re definitely balancing the scales, put it that way.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (03:48)

I’ve got ⁓ a great niece called Rosie and she is a force to be reckoned with and I keep saying to my husband, where did she get it from? And then he plays out a story and I go, hell.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (04:01)

But wouldn’t we rather have that? I think that even with my own kids, I’ve got two daughters, my eldest is nearly 12 and I’ve got a nine-year-old. Sometimes you’ve got to parent the best and worst of you out of them, but I’d much rather them be feisty independent girls than wallflowers. 100%. So you’ve got to remind yourself of that sometimes.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (04:20)

to go out and chase life.

 

Yeah. So coming back to that question I posed in the opening, Yas, have you ever said, is me, take it or leave it?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (04:36)

Oh yeah, I think, you know, it takes some time to get to that point in your life. And often, you know, I’m 44 this year, you know, I probably am much more certain in who I am and what I want in life now than I was in my twenties, as many people listening today is probably, you know, can resonate with. Um, but there has certainly been moments in my life where I had to acknowledge who I was on the inside. Um, you know, own my own myself, you know, warts and all, and the person that I am.

 

⁓ And yeah, just say this is who I am, take it or leave it. you know, in my life, hopefully most people have decided to take it.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (05:15)

Fantastic. Yeah. So let’s just have a look at your background because as I said, athlete, police officer, cyber safety expert, founder speaker, author, published about to be…

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (05:32)

About to be in a couple of months time. Yeah. in progress, but yes.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (05:36)

Beautiful. So is there a joining of the dots in this? Did one thing lead to the other?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (05:45)

Yeah, I think what you’ve just shared, Diet, sounds like a lot of different areas, but I think the golden thread is I’ve never been really afraid to try something new. so a lot of those careers have kind of just evolved one from the other.

 

It’s because I really believe that our skills, our behaviors, our attitudes, they’re transferable in lots of different parts of life. It’s just up to us to be unafraid to step into something new. And so, you know, if I think about my life as an athlete, that gave me a lot of great skills when it comes to, you know, discipline to show up when I didn’t feel like it or resilience to learn and try again. And, you know, the importance of things like consistency and knowing that that’s actually how confidence is built.

 

allowed me to become a police officer and you know to deal with some of the challenges that come with a role like that. Obviously starting your day at five o’clock in the morning four to five days a week and being okay with that. ⁓ You know being able to overcome challenges in really tricky situations like ⁓ that can be life and death or can be quite confronting in terms of what you’re walking into. Those skills really did transfer and

 

I’m sure we’ll talk about it more today, moving into the world of technology and cyber safety, that was challenging for me because I don’t and still don’t see myself as a tech person. Like if I’m the one that’s relied upon to try and fix the television remote, like good luck to you. But.

 

I understand people, I guess, and my skills in terms of understanding them and communicating with them is what led me into that world of technology and the impact that tech has on human beings and how we behave and why we behave a certain way. And so from my time in the police force, I saw a gap, I saw something that needed to be fixed or done better. And so I just went ahead and gave it a go. And that’s sort of what led me into the world of technology and digital safety.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (07:46)

Yeah, awesome. Well, we’re going to delve into all of those bits in some form of sequential order. Let’s start with the athlete because you won a world championship.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (08:00)

Yes, well I won the World Cup, Gold, Silver and Bronze, which was in Malmo in Sweden in the year 2000. So yeah, I can say I’m an international gold medalist, which is a pretty big tick off the list for many athletes for sure.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (08:13)

Absolutely. And 2000 was an Olympic year, but you had your first real hurdle in that because as I understand it, you didn’t make the games.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (08:29)

Yeah, yeah, that was a challenging time. I think when you have swum at an international meet and won, you know, a gold, silver and bronze, and then, you know, you see yourself as obviously one of the top qualifiers or top potential qualifiers for an Olympic Games in that same year. That was in February. The Olympic trials, I think, were in May. And yeah, I just didn’t have a great race.

 

that day, it’s all I can put it down to. I did the preparation, I put the work in and you know, I had a bit of a slip off the blocks as a backstroker. So there’s always that sort of challenging area of where you put your feet and how gripped they are on the wall. Sometimes it works well, other times, you know, there’s no other way to put it. It just wasn’t my day. And so subsequently missed the qualifying time and missed, you know, the top.

 

top two, which you need to come in to make an Olympic Games ⁓ and had to sort of suffer the consequences of that, which was hard of a lesson.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (09:33)

And I think with high performing athletes, you’ve got to peak at the right moment. So peaking in February and then holding it there for that long, I mean, that’s kind of a metaphor for life. How hard is it to do that, to peak at the right time?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (09:52)

Yeah, it’s challenging. mean, as an athlete, you train to peak at key.

 

points in the athletic calendar year. Obviously the Olympics is the pinnacle. ⁓ You taper off a couple of weeks before a big race and you hope it all comes together. But sometimes things just go awry. A lot of the time when you do taper down and you allow your body to relax, that’s where you’re going to get a cold or you’re going to get sick or your immune system is going to dip and…

 

There’s just nothing that you can do about it at times. But there are moments that you can overcome it. I’ve raced many a time where I thought I was going to do a terrible job. I was unwell. I talk about this a lot in a keynote that I do in particular, swimming a race with a 40 degree fever internationally and still coming out with a bronze medal unexpectedly. Sometimes you surprise yourself.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (10:49)

That describes life in so many ways.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (10:51)

It really does. You just have to deal with the unpredictability of it.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (10:56)

So how old were you in 2000? You were…

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (11:00)

I turned 18. yeah, 2000, I was just finishing school and yeah, turned 18. So became an adult and had to sort of figure out what to do with my life post-swimming, which was challenging.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (11:15)

So what did that, missing the team, what did that do to your sense of self as a young woman? ⁓

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (11:25)

think that moment had multiple impacts on…

 

my life. know, it was obviously a failure. was the pinnacle for any athlete to make an Olympic team, to call yourself an Olympian. You can win every other race on earth, but if you aren’t in the Olympics, there’s still something deep down that’s missing. So that was challenging to overcome. But I think a lot of things happened at once at that time because I had turned 18, become an adult, because I had finished school and had to figure out what to do with the rest of my life at that point. And I also decided

 

that, you know, did I want to go another four years and try again for the Olympics? And I just had to listen to my heart at that time, which, you know, as much as I tried to deny it, said, no, you’re not, you don’t know. I don’t have another four years in me. And

 

You know, the other thing was what was I going to do with life because we didn’t have the opportunities that are now available to many athletes, not very many female athletes, I might say, you know, sponsorships or commentating positions or whatever it might be, the dreams that all of us probably had deep down. They weren’t really realistic. And so I knew I had to reinvent myself at that point in time.

 

And it was challenging because all I’d ever known myself as was a swimmer and an athlete and everybody that I knew knew me as that. And so I did have a bit of a crisis of confidence and identity at that point in time, if I’m honest, I because I didn’t know who I was without swimming. And so it was a bit of a journey of self discovery from there.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (13:03)

How did you land at where you landed? Because it’s the only commonality I can see so far is the 5 a.m.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (13:12)

Yeah,

 

I mean, look, that was a good lesson. It was good skills and experience to get. But I basically, you know, I had to run away in a way. I had what I call my gap year at that point in time. And I went over to Canada. just I had

 

found myself randomly working in reality television in the production unit. And I met a guy who I knew for a couple of days, it’s gonna sound so crazy, but he was lovely, who was a cameraman from Canada who would come out to Australia to film a television show. And when we finished working together for these couple of days, he said, oh, if you ever wanna come to Canada and do some work over here, give me a call, I’d love to have you come over. And because I…

 

really wasn’t sure what I was doing with my life. I just kind of took him up on his offer and I still cannot to this day believe my mum allowed me to go halfway across the world to go live in some guy’s like dungeon in his house, which it was. ⁓

 

But I think she knew I just needed to go and evolve. so I went over there and he was, he remains a wonderful friend. was a great person to me through a bit of a crisis time in my life. But I needed to be around people who didn’t know me for my swimming career, who wanted to get to know me for the person that I was. And I spent, yeah, close to 12 months over in Canada, doing all the things that I’d missed out on, I guess, as a teenager, going to parties,

 

being silly, doing, you I had my 21st birthday in Las Vegas. I went to Cuba, you know, all these great like growth opportunities, I guess, that happened for me. But I did know that I had to come back and get a job. And in my mind, I’d always sort of been thinking a little bit about what that might be. And towards the end of the trip, ⁓ this guy, his name was Kelly, his sister was an officer in the Royal Canadian Mounted Police.

 

And one night she said, do you want to come on a ride along with me and see what the job’s all about? Which again, would never ever happen.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (15:20)

in Australia. No, I was going to say that is, I was going to say does that happen? You see it

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (15:25)

movies

 

but it did. It did then. I remember thinking gosh I should not be here because I was literally in the back of her police car driving to different jobs and it was so exciting and it was really fun and I loved the diversity of the work.

 

deep down the meaning and the impact that they had as police officers for people in these sorts of situations. And so, you know, I may or may not have had a bit of a crush on Dana Scully from the X-Files as a young girl and really loved a bit of the X-Files there. So I came back and went, why not join the police force? So I put my application in and the rest is history.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (16:03)

that is awesome. So, but more than that, around that time, you’re also navigating your own identity in life in general. Can you share something about that with us?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (16:17)

Yeah, well, I think perhaps because I had spent years with my head looking up and down a black line, I’d not really explored much about my sexuality or who I was as a person. so, you know, I guess with the relief of what was happening in the swimming world now off my mind, it gave me space and time to sort of decide who I was and to explore a lot of those thoughts and feelings. And

 

I had never honestly given a second thought to being attracted to women versus men. ⁓ I’d always sort of been pretty balanced in that way, I guess, but it became evident while I was away that perhaps I swung the other way and it allowed me time to explore that, I guess. ⁓ So yeah, that was another.

 

change and quite a big change, I guess, to deal with amongst that loss of identity as an athlete and this new identity as a police officer. So yeah, I guess go back to your original question. Did I have to ever

 

find a time where I just went this is who I am, warts and all, accept me or not. That was probably the biggest moment for me ⁓ when it came to my family and my friends of standing in my power and you know believing in who I was and what I needed as a human being.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (17:39)

So did you share that with family once you got back to Oz or did you share that from a distance from Canada?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (17:45)

No, I shared it when I got back to Oz. I think, you you’re not going to tell your parents too much about what you’re getting up to on Saturday nights and running around at, you know, gay bars and things like that. I think, you know, the moment that my mum started to notice that I was hanging around with a lot of lesbians and I remember her saying to me, darling, you’re never going to get a boyfriend if you keep hanging out with all these lesbian girls. And I sort of just had to turn to her in that moment and say, look, mum.

 

There’s a reason that I’m hanging out with a lot of lesbian girls who were my friends, mind you. ⁓ But it was about building community, I guess, and trying to ⁓ figure out who I was. I wasn’t putting any major labels on that, but I did.

 

⁓ one who acknowledge and give myself permission to explore this side of myself that I hadn’t thought about before. ⁓ So yeah, look, I have a beautiful family. I’m fortunate that I never really was at risk of some of the really terrible consequences that many other people in their rainbow community have had to deal with, like being disowned or…

 

you know, being abused or whatever it might be for being who you are. But I did have to deal with the perception of grief and loss of the life they thought that I would live. ⁓ Certainly for my mum, there was concerns around

 

you know, having children and getting married and all of the things that she had in her mind about what my life would look like. And I can now reflecting back, really understand the kind of grief and loss element of that. But I’ve always been pretty determined to live life on my terms. And I was not going to miss out on having children and I was not going to miss out on getting married if that was what I chose to do. Marriage equality hadn’t happened at that point. But

 

⁓ you know, I was going to live a life as close to what I had decided I was going to have, ⁓ no matter who I was with. So that kind of.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (19:48)

keeping

 

all of those boxes since then.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (19:51)

Yeah, we have. ⁓ I think, you know, you live a life on your terms. It’s not always easy, but you have more control than you think.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (20:00)

Yeah, that’s wonderful. So if there is a woman in the audience at the moment or a listener at the moment who has reached a crossroad and doesn’t know how to actually step forward with that, what would you like her to walk away with?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (20:19)

Look, I think the first thing is to be a bit kind on yourself and don’t place unrealistic expectations on yourself. You’ve got to have self-acceptance first because once you do…

 

come out with this, it can be jarring for some people. We’re lucky now that in this day and age there is a lot more acceptance, ⁓ not just acceptance, but an embracing of the rainbow community. That’s not to say there aren’t challenges and people pushing against it, of course, as we’re starting to see around the world. But I think being sure of yourself, listening to that inner voice is really important, taking some time to explore and make sure that it’s right.

 

And then I think the big thing is finding community around you, you your champions, your allies, the people who love you for who you are. You’ll know who they are and to lean on them. I think I imagine a lot of the listeners on this podcast are really strong, competent, you know, often known as alpha.

 

women or allies and sometimes we can get trapped in thinking that we can do it all ourselves but we’ve got to remember that we need community and supporters around us and to create those support networks and systems.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (21:32)

And that’s a

 

really interesting point, Yas, because I think you’re right. ⁓ We end up being attracted to like-minded people. We group together, we find ourselves. mean, if I think of all of my girlfriends, they’re all fierce, determined. There’s so many of them who are entrepreneurs, successful entrepreneurs and go-getters, and your world will be the same. But it doesn’t mean we don’t struggle with the same things that…

 

that those who have less confidence than ourselves have. And in some respects, we feel we need to keep the wall up so that people don’t know that we might leave our feet paddling underwater at a million miles an hour just to keep our heads above water.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (22:17)

That’s right. That’s right. I think it is hard, especially if you see yourself and you identify as a high achiever. It can be particularly difficult to reach out and ask for help because people are, guess, surprised that you need it. can be these real perceptions and you’ve got it all handled. And we’ve got to just be realistic and remember nobody has it all handled. Certainly not all of the time. And so it is that kind of moment for each of us to remember to reach out

 

our strong friends as well as those that we think perhaps might need extra support because you never know what someone’s going going through you know behind the scenes.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (22:55)

Yeah, that’s so true. Well, you’re listening to the Power of Women podcast and I’m talking with Yas London and we’re just getting started.

 

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Yas, you spent 13 years in the New South Wales Police Force, which is quite a period of time. think we’ve already established early mornings from swimming were pretty good training ground because as you’ve already suggested, policing day or your policing day started really, really early. You had the experience in Canada with your cameraman mate’s sister in the Mounties.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (23:37)

be.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (23:47)

What was it about the policing that really resonated and when did you know it was right for you?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (23:53)

don’t even know if it was.

 

perfectly right, but what I did see was a career that allowed me to move around and to get lots of different types of experience. think, you know, I mentioned as a kid, I was bored easily. was, that’s constant. I’m still this challenge for me, to be honest. I like to be stimulated and, you know, have a little bit of a bright, shiny thing, fascination. But, you know, I loved the idea of a career that had social impact. I knew that I was good under pressure.

 

was good with people and I wanted to be able to contribute I guess in a meaningful way. Meaningful work was important to me.

 

And so, yeah, the ability to have diverse experiences, whether it was general duties policing or whether it was working in the proactive crime team or whether it was working in corporate comms. I did some supervision for some of the police television shows for a period of time, like Missing Persons Unit and the recruits and Highway Patrol, because I had a bit of a television background that allowed me to sort of step in there. But the majority of my service I spent at Rose Bay Police Station

 

in the eastern suburbs of Sydney as a youth liaison officer. And I took that role on because I was ready to step off the truck a little bit. Night shifts and ⁓ rotating rosters were pretty challenging. I was never someone that did particularly well staying up all night. ⁓ And I’ve always sort of had a knack with young people to understand where they’re at and to help them. And so I thought that would be a good role. ⁓

 

And I guess, yeah, that was the role that changed my life, to be honest. ⁓ I dealt with a lot of different situations, but the one that brought me into the world of technology was a suicide negotiation with a 14-year-old girl over a clifftop known as The Gap.

 

Now that is a not yeah it’s really well well known 96 meters high and you know unfortunately for me as a cop in that area I was there regularly which was a surprise to me when I first started at Rose Bay but ⁓

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (26:04)

What’s regularly? I

 

know we don’t talk about suicide in terms of, you know, a media thing, but what is regular in something like that?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (26:16)

Well, you know, depending on the time of year that you were working, there were times where I would be up there several times a week, sometimes several times a shift. So when we were looking at, you know, periods of time of the year, summertime, Christmas time was particularly challenging. I think that’s a really important thing for those of us to, you know, who have.

 

mainly happy families to remember that times like Christmas can be really, really hard for a lot of people. They aren’t joyful times. They can be dangerous times for many women in particular. ⁓ And yeah, so, you know, it could have been multiple times a shift. think the most I’d been up there is three times in a shift. ⁓

 

and you’re talking to people sometimes for just a few moments or sometimes you’re up there for a few hours. ⁓ I remember the very first day that I started at Rose Bay, we did our sort of briefing in the morning and we were going on a little ride along up to the gap to just have a look at the area and get familiar with it. And when we arrived, there was an active negotiation happening, which we of course all ran up to help with. And while that negotiation was happening,

 

another person jumped from the cliff top at the other end of the gap.

 

That day, I mean, that was a real wake up call to the impact and prevalence of mental health, even in ⁓ the most influential and high socioeconomic areas of our society. We’ve got to understand that other people are struggling and to not make assumptions about what their life looks like. And I think that’s what that day really taught me.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (28:02)

Yeah. through that lens, what surprised, and the lens being a police officer, what surprised you most about human behaviour?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (28:14)

⁓ Look, I think after a while there wasn’t a lot of surprises because you learn not to make assumptions about anyone. People have a mask and what’s going on behind that mask can be very, very different. So in terms of the mental health aspects, you know, we dealt with women who were struggling with postnatal depression. We dealt with young people who were dealing with cyber bullying incidents. We dealt with

 

you know, CEOs who had gambling addictions and had gambled away their life savings and everything and their family didn’t know. We had other elderly people who had been diagnosed with diseases like dementia, who didn’t want to be a drain on their family. All of these different reasons for people to be up there on that cliff top. And so you do learn a lot about what people are going through. And I guess that the only way that you can can

 

can solve that problem is to connect with them and understand their side. And I think that’s, you know, a really kind of a morbid way to say you’ve learnt life lessons, but I’ll never forget the people and the lessons that I learnt up at the GAP. And I still bring those lessons into what I share in my work today. And I think that really, you know, being able to see someone ⁓ and not make assumptions about them is the greatest lesson that I’ve learnt.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (29:37)

Yeah, and that’s a line I have to say, that my husband uses all the time, which is never assume. And I think that is such an important thing. And I know I’m guilty of it, you know, even in the traffic. all are. Yeah, even in the traffic, somebody does something and I might gesture ⁓ my expression of interest at the time. ⁓ you can’t assume what sort of day they’re having.

 

who’s to know what they’ve just walked out of, what’s going on in their world, how their day started. So I think it’s a really important lesson. But can I ask, and it’s a bit of an obvious question, but I do want to touch on it. In the police force as a female, was that a tough place for you as a collegiate workforce?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (30:32)

For a period of time, definitely. I think there was certainly bigger barriers that I needed to overcome to prove my worth. ⁓ Certainly as a woman and even more so as a gay woman. I think probably the sexualisation ⁓ commentary, the harassment that happened. ⁓ There was workplace bullying. I had situations with a superior who had made advances that I rejected.

 

who basically gave me the silent treatment for weeks and weeks and that silent treatment extended to quite critical situations that were dangerous where I wasn’t being responded to on police radio. So yeah, it was challenging.

 

It probably came down more to feeling like I had to prove myself. And once you did get to that point where, you know, you were given the tick of approval anecdotally by your colleagues that you were a good operator, then that reputation did follow you throughout the police force. And that was a benefit, I guess, if you were seen as a competent officer. You know, that continued, but it takes a lot to get there in the first place and certainly as a woman. Yeah.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (31:50)

And look, mean, you’re a very attractive woman. Did that work for you or against you in that setting?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (31:57)

⁓ I would say it worked against me for a fairly significant period of time. As I said, you know, I was only seen as fresh meat, I guess, for the first period of time where I was. ⁓ But, you know, that perhaps was by men, but it was also by other female officers. There’s this really interesting, you know, proximity to power.

 

issue that goes on in the police force. And so I can remember in my first sort of week or so being at the police station that I started at having a female officer call me a lava lamp. I was like confused at what that meant. It means pretty to look at, but not much else going on and or not much else that you can you can offer. So, you know, coming into a new workplace, I was I think all of

 

23, 24 years old, really enthusiastic, wanting to start. And that was kind of the entry. And so it was a bit shocking and a bit hard to handle. But I always sort of go back into this, guess, frame of mind of what can I control here? And a little bit of a, can prove myself and I’m gonna prove you wrong. That’s just that kind of, I don’t know, fire in my belly that I have as part of my nature.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (33:11)

But it is challenging. That’s what got you down the pool following that black line. It’s same drive.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (33:17)

It is that same drive. And I think as well, Di, knowing that I had a lot more to offer as well. And the challenge that I had there is when you’re in the police, the only thing that matters is your time in the job. So you could have done amazing things outside of the police force, but none of that really seems to count against

 

you the work that you’re doing there. So I could say, you know, I’ve worked in television, I have been a, you know, a near Olympian, I’ve won, you know, international gold medals. This is the person that I am. This is the discipline that I have. This is what I’m the competency I’m bringing to this role. But none of that matters because you enter the world and you enter the police force as a probationary constable, the lowest person on the ladder. ⁓ And you are based on, you know, how well you respond, but also how well you adhere

 

to rules and hierarchy. And I’ve always found that very difficult. So I was probably a bit of a square peg in a round hole for quite some time.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (34:20)

 

That’s an interesting thing because in most of our careers what we’ve done is recognised as the amalgam of who we are. That’s a bit of a unique scenario where it’s like we don’t give a toss. You are only the entity that you are in this job and your history counts for little if nothing.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (34:35)

Yeah.

 

Absolutely. You are valued based purely on your time at rank. So you you go through the ranks, you become a constable, a senior constable, a leading senior and sergeant and above. And the respect goes up ⁓ at a concurrent level to your rank. ⁓

 

So, you you could be a senior constable and have a lot of respect, but you’re always at the mercy of your superiors and what they think. And I think one of the challenges that I had was I value people on, you know, their ethics, their integrity, how they behave, all of the things that we should look at and say, you are a person worth following. And there are many great people in the police just like that. But there are also people who really enjoy, you know, the rank and form and hierarchical structure.

 

Yeah It is it is and there’s a lot of people that perhaps I didn’t feel deserved that level of respect which yet

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (35:34)

It’s a place to hide.

 

which will

 

be the same thing that our defence forces suffer with it, these overtly hierarchical structures have reason and they have flaws, clearly.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (35:55)

That’s right. They’re imperfect. Possibly a system that needs reshaping in the very near future.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (36:01)

Yeah, the police force though was where the first intersection with cyber safety really came onto your radar. What were you seeing that became the drip feed to what was the next step in your career?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (36:23)

Yeah, there were a couple of different incidents. you know, many people listening might remember the beautiful Charlotte Dawson, who was a famous celebrity here in Australia, who died by suicide. And I was fortunate enough to know her through a period of time in the lead up to her death, where she was being quite seriously trolled and harassed by different people on the internet. And

 

Personally, I believe, you know, that was perhaps a contributor to her mental ill health at that time. So her experiences there really woke me up, I guess, to the impacts of online environments on our physical world. ⁓ But around that time as well, I had a suicide negotiation with a young girl up at the Gap. ⁓ And she was up there because she had been cyber bullied quite significantly. And I remember this conversation with her

 

It was like a penny drop moment because I just, didn’t know a lot about social media. I’ve got to admit to you at the time, like it was 2012, I think Instagram had been around for two years. I knew a bit about Facebook, but that was about the extent of it. And I realized that a situation that had happened online for this young girl had literally brought her to a cliff’s edge where she felt like her life was not living, not worth living anymore.

 

And I just wanted to do more about that. I remember at the time, you know, my wife and I were considering going through IVF and so we were thinking a lot about kids and what that could look like. And I just had this moment of just internal grief and distress that if this ever happened to my child or anyone that I knew, you know, I just don’t know how I would have handled it. And so,

 

I didn’t see a lot being done in that space. And because I’d been working in schools at the same time as a youth liaison officer, I started getting asked to come in and talk about this to the kids. I was asked to teach the staff. I was asked to talk to the parents and there just wasn’t enough education out there. So I started a side business, which I’ll take my hat off to the police. They allowed me secondary employment to start this business.

 

And I did both for a period of time and was really fortunate to meet a couple of other fantastic, powerful women in my business partners, Jordan Foster and Taryn Wren. And we created a online safety business that still operates today. ⁓ Working in about 500 schools across Australia. It’s one of the biggest online safety education businesses across the country. And it was acquired by an organization called Coria back in 2020.

 

that’s sort of what led me into the world of technology. ⁓ And, you know, they’re a safety tech organization and they create fantastic tools for schools, but also parents to help manage online time for kids. And so, yeah, it sort of was a very random ⁓ segue into the world of tech in many ways, but something really driven by self-belief. And again, that need for meaningful work and to make an impact and a difference. ⁓

 

So yeah, just followed that gut instinct, I guess.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (39:36)

Yeah,

 

and as you say, you weren’t a tech person, but it was the awareness of what was happening in that space. So with that in mind, do you think our recent, ⁓ I’ll call it really a global trial of taking younger children offline is effective or will be effective?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (40:00)

This is a very big question, Di. What I will say is I think it’s an excellent first step. think that the ⁓ social media ban or the delay did what many of us in this space for many years have been trying to do, which is draw attention to the issue that is causing critical harm to our kids in many ways. What this ban does though is it kind of segments kids off a portion of the internet while leaving

 

a lot of the rest of the internet wide open. And, you know, it’s great for younger kids perhaps who are not on social media in the first place or whose parents have, you know, been able to action, you know, keeping them off it for a period of time. But what we know about kids is that when they are banned from something, and I certainly was this kid as well, you might have been too, you will find a way around it.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (40:55)

Yeah, I think that’s right.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (40:57)

What happens when you find a way around it and you’re not meant to be there is if something happens that’s bad.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (41:03)

No safety net.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (41:04)

No safety net and you’re not going to ask for help because you don’t want to get in trouble. so what it does is drive down help seeking behavior. And that is the single biggest protective factor for kids when it comes to online environments is being prepared to say something’s happening. I need help and I need help from a trusted adult who I know will be able to help rectify the situation in some way. So, you know, there’s a real divide about this ban.

 

And I think it’s really unnecessary. think people are being put into the for camp or the against camp. And I think we just need to say, look, it’s here. We have to deal with it. It’s a great first step, but we need to look at a more holistic solution, not just banning them from one section of the internet when we know significant online harm happens in many other darker places that they’re accessing at the moment too.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (41:56)

Yeah, and

 

you’re so right. I was reflecting on a childhood story in my own home the other day and I was a horse rider from age four, but I never was allowed to go riding on my own and I didn’t like sleeping in. And my parents used to hammer up literally a woolen picnic blanket over the window to make it darker. And what I used to do at five in the morning was pull the corner out.

 

shimmy my way out the window, walk up to the hill where my pony was. I was too little to get on and saddle it on my own. So I used to use a milk crate, but I could sneak out, shimmy out the window, go riding and be back in bed to be woken up at seven o’clock and say, hey, it’s me. And all the things that could have gone wrong in that two hour window, because I’d been told I wasn’t allowed to do something, but I was.

 

That was half the appeal. Let’s see if I can do it without getting caught. I mean, that is human nature.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (43:00)

It

 

is human nature. It’s exactly right. And I think when it comes to kids in technology, you know, they’ve got the time and the motivation, you know, this is their world. And the means. Like how often are we the ones that say, darling, can you fix the internet for me? Or can you help me make my computer work or whatever it might be? These kids.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (43:09)

and the main

 

The younger they are, the more tech savvy they are. That’s exactly right.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (43:25)

They are. So, you know, we’ve got to be realistic about what this ban can do, but also importantly, the unintended consequences that happen as a result of that, which is that they find themselves in much more dark and dangerous places on the internet that are far less regulated, talking to chatbots that might encourage self harm, ⁓ you know, spending time on games where they’re really, unfortunately, learning about

 

toxic masculinity and misogyny or the manosphere, know, these community forums that they’re on. Social media is harmful. I don’t think there’s much to deny that, but it’s like a piece of Swiss cheese. There’s holes everywhere and we need to look at it more holistically.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (44:10)

Yeah. So where does this intersect with what you’re doing with your business now, First Movers? Is this in the same sweet spot?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (44:18)

Yeah, well, I think first movers is essentially a leadership philosophy. And it’s really based on my belief that a lot of us in life, particularly women and girls, we’re kind of can

 

conditioned to wait, ⁓ know, wait until someone else tells us something is okay or wait for someone who’s perhaps more qualified. There’s a lot of situations, I guess, where we hesitate and First Movers is really about being a call to action to stop waiting for the signal and remember that you can actually be the signal yourself in terms of the systems and ⁓ I guess processes that affect our lives that no longer fit the future.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (44:58)

Is

 

metaphor for your own life?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (45:00)

could be. I think it is, you know, I knew that I wanted to expand my work beyond kids, you know, I’ll always work in terms of digital safeguarding and young people. But what I started to see was, you know, equal damage happening, particularly to women and girls when it came to online environments. what I can teach and what I can share, I guess, is what I feel has helped me be successful, which is to, you know,

 

I’m not saying everybody needs to run out and do whatever they want, but…

 

If you see a solution or you think that you have an idea that’s worth hearing or you know, there’s a system that you think you can reshape. Don’t wait for someone else to come up with that idea. Believe in yourself enough to step forward and be the first to go first. ⁓ You know, it is about thinking through. It’s not about being reckless. ⁓ But I guess my work in First Movers is that ethos and it’s particularly targeted, I guess, in terms of themes and content around technology, gender.

 

youth and culture. Those are sort of the four areas that I specialize in. ⁓ But I think, you know, the digital world at the moment is amplifying gender bias, inequality. And if we don’t start to reshape it, if we don’t have more women in tech, if we don’t have safety by design embedded ⁓ in these these types of technologies, then we’re going to find ourselves in a really problematic situation in the next couple of years. You know, we saw recently in January,

 

the GROC put her in a bikini scenario where the GROC chatbot on X was able to create nude images of thousands and thousands of women and girls and create image-based abuse. Now that chatbot at one point, I think it was on the 8th of January, was getting 6,000 requests an hour to nudify women and girls. There were 3 million women and girls total that were impacted.

 

around 23,000 images of child abuse material were created as a result of that. ⁓ And so, you know, these are significant harms that impact people in the real world.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (47:13)

against the gender

 

consequences of AI.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (47:17)

It is. And we need to understand that, you know, there are things we can do, but we have to understand how it impacts people in the first place. And what we’re seeing is, you know, when women stick their head up from the pulpit, when they want to become leaders, when they want to be, you know, if they’re amazing athletes, you know, if they’re high profile, if they’re journalists, for example, they are targeted even more severely. If you’re a politician.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (47:44)

any public image position.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (47:46)

100%.

 

And so, know, whoever has the visibility owns the narrative and the online world allows us to have a voice and a voice of influence. And what happens when women are suffering these sorts of online harms is they refrain from participating. There’s a phenomenon called the silencing effect, which means that women don’t fight back. just withdraw from platforms. They withdraw from public life.

 

⁓ And that’s not a situation I’m prepared to cop, to be perfectly honest with you. And so I want to do everything that I can to try and make sure that these systems are designed in a way that is equitable and safe for women and for girls and allows equal opportunity for a future for all of us.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (48:31)

That’s admirable work, Yas. My question though around AI is given AI’s learning from everything that’s out there in the ether, can we train out the bias that’s already existed in society for so many generations that AI is a level playing field for everybody?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (48:58)

It’s a really great question. If I had the answer, I’d probably be very rich woman. But I think, you know, in the end…

 

We’ve got we have systems that perhaps we can cleanse in terms of data. We have businesses that can choose more ethical data sets that have gone through checks and balances. Can we totally rewrite history? Probably not. But I guess that next step is understanding that each and every one of us has the capability to apply a critical thinking lens to the things that we’re seeing, to challenge and call out bias, to correct it, to take those small steps.

 

each of us as individuals can take that has scale when we actually action them. ⁓ So I guess, you know, is there a perfect solution to that? No. But the day that we stop trying, we may as well give up. think that’s right. We’ve got to keep pushing.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (49:51)

So what’s the title of the book that’s about to come out?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (49:55)

Oh gosh, it’s still a work in progress. haven’t got the actual title. No, it’ll be around August, July, early August is what I want. Working title is sort of dancing around the art of going first, which is the same title as the keynote that I do a lot as well. You know, is it an art form? I don’t know. I think, you know, it could be.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (49:58)

for the release date.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (50:21)

And I think that there’s tangible lessons that each and every one of us can apply to our own lives. It’s about women, about inclusion, about courageous action. And I guess, you know, always that first mover ethos of, you know, making sure that we don’t wait for the signal. Remember that we are the signal when the world needs to change.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (50:40)

Brilliant. Is there, and I did mean to ask you earlier, is there a pin up first mover that you look to as aspirational mentor, exemplar?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (50:55)

I have many, I guess. really, ⁓ well, I actively surround myself with women who believe in themselves, who want to live a big life, who are chasing dreams and have ambition and goals, but also are cheerleaders for each other. you know, if I have a great group of people like that, but if I think about the OG first mover, the one that really taught me to chase my dreams.

 

you know, it probably is my nanny June, who has passed away now. But she was, you know, an incredible rule breaker, status quo shaker, amazing woman in the 60s, an entrepreneur, ⁓ overcame a troubled marriage ⁓ to create the very first gourmet sandwich store underneath the ASX building in Sydney city.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (51:45)

There you go,

 

there’s a bit of history.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (51:48)

No,

 

she used to say she sold fruits to the suits because she used to put pineapple and cranberries on sourdough bread and make these crazy concoctions, but everybody loved her. And she always used to say, you know, never let anyone tell you who you are. You chase your dreams, you go for them. ⁓ And I’ve always believed that from a very young age. so I have her to thank for that as well as my mom and the rest of the women in my family.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (52:11)

Yeah, fantastic. Couple of quick questions to wrap up. What’s your superpower?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (52:16)

Yes.

 

gosh. I think I’m pretty good at connecting with and understanding people quickly and I trust my instincts and I trust myself to move on them.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (52:36)

Yeah. What’s a phrase that defines you?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (52:40)

I live and die by the saying that action beats good intention every day of the week. I think that, you know, that’s how confidence is built. You know, it’s not a prerequisite, it’s a result of taking action.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (52:52)

Yeah. And what was the most valuable life lesson that underpins who you are today?

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (52:59)

Most valuable life lesson, that in life there’s always someone who needs to be the first to go first, so why not you?

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (53:07)

Yeah, beautiful. You were always going to start First Movers, Yas. That was always going to be the name of one of your business ventures.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (53:15)

I think it was. It’s taken me a long time to get here though, Di. I think, like I said, I’m interested in passion. It feels like I’ve lived a very big life.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (53:22)

Hey, that’s not a long time.

 

in front of you to do more.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (53:28)

But I’m excited about it. That gut instinct, you’ve to listen to it. And there’s the highs and lows, obviously, of any entrepreneurial journey. But I know that this is the impact that I want to make on the world and on women to have that self-belief and that just go get them attitude. Because I think women should rule the world.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (53:49)

There you have it. Well, the power of women title might suggest we could be in the same, on the same vein. exactly. Well, thank you. It’s been a great conversation joining me today. I know we’ve jumped around a little bit. We’ve been cyber, we’ve been cyber security, we’ve been bullying in the workforce, we’ve been identity, we’ve been resilience building through.

 

not necessarily always getting what we want in life. But we’ve covered a whole lot of aspects that I think still come back to the individual aspect of building resilience, building strength, building self-belief. And these are the types of conversations that I think we need to have more and more of. And I’m the next generation up from you. I’m in the baby boomers and I’m not sure we had as much of…

 

of the role models as your generation have to look to and hopefully we can all help each other because I think this intergenerational mix of knowledge and learning and connection is what makes it so much better to move forward together.

 

YAS LONDON [Guest] (55:04)

Yeah,

 

absolutely. I couldn’t agree more, Di. We’re all in this together. Got to give each other the leg up that we need.

 

DI GILLETT [Host] (55:10)

Exactly. Fantastic.

 

Thanks, Yas. Until next time.

 

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

03:11 Yasmin’s Journey: From Athlete to Advocate

05:59 Navigating Identity and Self-Acceptance

09:17 The Impact of Failure and Reinvention

12:13 Finding Purpose in Policing

15:08 Exploring Sexuality and Community

18:08 Advice for Women at a Crossroad

21:15 The Role of Support Networks

24:20 Life Lessons from the Police Force

27:33 Understanding Mental Health and Human Behavior

30:27 Challenges of Being a Female Officer

36:18 The Intersection of Cyber Safety and Mental Health

39:31 Navigating Technology and Online Safety

44:13 First Movers: A Leadership Philosophy

48:28 Addressing Gender Bias in AI and Technology

 

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Are Women the Future of Politics?

Are Women the Future of Politics?

In this episode of the Power of Women podcast, Di Gillett interviews Kellie Sloane, the leader of the Liberal Party of New South Wales. The conversation is centred around the evolving role of women in politics.

Kellie with her optimistic outlook, embodies the spirit of resilience and strength that many women bring to the political arena. The conversation delves into the reasons behind this shift, emphasising the growing expectation for accountability and higher standards from leaders.

With a significant representation of women and younger voices in her team, Kellie believes that the political landscape is shifting towards a more inclusive and balanced environment.

This conversation serves as a powerful reminder of the impact women are having in politics today.

 

➡️You’ll Hear :

Why community must come first

Leadership lessons from crisis

Why voters value empathetic leadership

Why Kellie believes that kindness is a strength in leadership

The importance of bipartisan cooperation

How diversity in politics brings different perspectives to public policy

Why integrity is non-negotiable.

 

Key Takeaways:

  • Voters value empathetic leadership
  • Kindness is not weakness
  • There is rise of women across the political spectrum
  • Bipartisan cooperation is healthy
  • We need a strong opposition to hold the Government of the day to account.
📖 Read the full transcript of this conversation here.

FULL TRANSCRIPT:

DI GILLETT [HOST] (00:04)

Kellie when you hear the words power of women, what comes to mind?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (00:09)

and optimism and all my girlfriends and just generations of great energy.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (00:15)

Leadership is tested most clearly at moments of disruption. And when we’re talking about politics, women are at the center of that shift. I’m Di Gillett and this is the Power of Women podcast. And what I love about this platform is the opportunity to showcase and celebrate the strength, resilience and achievement of women from all walks of life. Today, I am joined by Kellie Sloane, leader at the Liberal Party of New South Wales.

 

and in fact one of the most consequential figures in state politics right now. Kellie leads at a moment when expectations of political leadership are changing, greater accountability, deeper scrutiny and higher standards. And as the events of December 2025 in Bondi Beach in Australia revealed, at a time when we have never experienced such volatility in the community.

 

Callie has spoken publicly about issues left to the margins. Men’s health, Australia’s declining birth rate, economic participation, infrastructure, and importantly, access to healthcare. And only a few weeks ago, she announced a new shadow ministry, positioning her team as government ready as we approach 2027. This is a conversation about why women are changing politics.

 

At a time when change is a daily headline. Kellie Sloane, welcome to the Power of Women podcast.

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (01:47)

Thank you, Di. It’s so great to be with you.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (01:50)

Great to see you, Kellie. And for those listening who feel somewhat disillusioned by politics, we’re trying to put pay to that in today’s conversation. Kellie, love to reveal a backstory of where somebody’s come from and what brings them to current day. You’ve built an incredibly successful career outside politics. Why the shift and why now?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (02:18)

first job was as a journalist, a television journalist. I worked for Channel 9 primarily for about 14 years. And I had the great privilege of standing with people in moments of crisis, moments of loss, and moments of opportunity and celebration. And in those moments, there was a real privilege in reporting on that, telling their stories. But I guess I increasingly got frustrated by

 

The fact that I couldn’t play an active role in the change that I wanted to see. So telling their story was important, but being an active participant in the change that I wanted to see in our community became something that was really motivating for me. So I left journalism and moved into the not-for-profit sector.

 

worked with Life Education was the CEO of that organization and your listeners might be familiar with Healthy Harold, the giraffe. That was the icon of that organization. Got me deeply involved in policy around children’s and young people’s health, their mental health, their physical health. So I started to get an itch to do more. And I guess there was a point where I thought,

 

You know, I’ve told people stories, I’ve advocated for them. Now let’s jump in and see if I can make an even bigger difference in politics. And here I am.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (03:37)

Fantastic. And I know there is a personal cost in stepping forward into public life and in particular in politics. And I know a lot of people would wrestle with what that looks like. How have you come to terms with that part of the decision to step up into politics?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (03:57)

I have my eyes wide open, have to say, having covered politics for so long as a journalist and interviewed lots of prime ministers and engaged with the political process. So I knew that going into it, it would be tough. And I had to be okay with that. I had to be okay with giving up a level of privacy, giving up a lot of family time, because as a member of parliament, people probably don’t realize that you’re up very early and you’re going to

 

community events every night, which is really terrific. And I really enjoy that part of the role, but it means less time with friends, less time with family. And so guess I’m, you know, had that chat with my husband and our boys, our boys are now teenagers. So they understood and they were very supportive. And so I’m really lucky to do that. And can I say, I have to say there’s so much more that’s positive about this role than negative and

 

I thought there would be a greater deal of skepticism, a greater deal of anger, a greater deal of hate. And I have to say, I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the warmth in the community. People who were inclined to vote for me, people who won’t vote for me, who have said, you know, we really respect what you do and what you’re putting your hand up for. So I think we have in Australia that healthy skepticism of politics and politicians, understandable. But there’s also a lot of people who say, thanks for what you’re doing.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (05:18)

Kellie, was there ⁓ a political figure either in Australia or globally who has influenced your decision to step forward or in fact your views?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (05:31)

strong strength and inspiration from a variety of different figures. Sometimes they’re very different. As an example, if you were to go back a number of decades, Margaret Thatcher, who had this steely determination even when opposed and just pushed through based on her values. I find that incredibly inspiring. But on the other hand, someone entirely different, like Jacinda Ardern in New Zealand, whose policies I may not agree with, but I really respect her for showing a

 

kind of leadership that really resonates with me. One that says that kindness is a strength and not a weakness. And then I also in more recent times and closer to home, Gladys Berejiklian, who, you know, through COVID really steered our state, gave us ⁓ comfort. And that came through her diligence and her work ethic. And I really admire that too. And she’s someone I check in with from time to time to get a bit of advice.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (06:30)

that’s wonderful, having mentors. I found this wonderful little booklet the other day in memorabilia from my late father who was also a state politician for a short period. And it’s a little book for 30 cents that says quotations from the chairman Henry Bolte. Now none of them are repeatable because they’re almost all sexist, but it’s the most hysterical little booklet that ⁓ probably should be in the political archives now that I…

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (06:59)

Yeah

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (07:00)

Yeah, incredible one. So on more serious note, Kellie, ⁓ we were really shaken in December 2025 with the tragedy at Bondi and you were front and centre at that event. What did that moment clarify for you about leadership?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (07:26)

I had been the opposition leader for less than three weeks ⁓ when the terrorism attack happened at Bondi Beach. I’m also the local member for that area and I was nearby at a separate Heineken celebration about to deliver a speech. I was standing on stage when the crowd started running and the place ended up in lockdown and I went to find out what was happening for my own safety. ended up having to jump into a

 

what’s called a Hatsola ambulance. was a community ambulance and the driver said there’s been a shooting at Bondi. My colleague has been shot. I’m going down there and I said, well, look, I’m coming with you. And we tore down to Bondi, arrived within minutes and as the shots were still being fired but was finishing up and we ended up parked under that bridge.

 

⁓ not knowing that the gunmen were above us still wrestling with the police and I went in ⁓ as did the ambulance driver and we attempted to help people and

 

In terms of what, you know, the moment of clarity from that, I think it’s something I always knew that community and all our decision-making community must come first, their safety, their, you know, a sense of bipartisanship was really important to me in the days and weeks after that attack that I felt it was very important to be working with the government to make sure that we were providing the resources locals needed, that we were there in lockstep when it came.

 

to supporting their grief, attending funerals, attending memorials, ⁓ an incredibly difficult time, incredibly difficult time and moments that I will certainly never forget my entire life.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (09:20)

How do you manage your own mental health having been fronted, etc. and then try and make clear headed decisions as part of that experience?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (09:32)

You know, I guess my answer is I just, really don’t know because there’s no one, there’s no textbook that can tell you how to manage that. So I think you draw on your own resolve and there are moments I’ll admit where, you know, I find it incredibly tough. And those moments often hit me out of the blue where I’ll stop and there’ll be just intense sadness. And I’ve talked with some of the other people that were there. ⁓

 

in the immediate aftermath of that shooting, the other first responders. I’ve got a lot of comfort talking to people like our surf lifeguards and lifesavers. We all went through that together and I find great comfort in that. And then I also feel, you know, it’s been important for the community that they knew I was there, that I understand and that I’m motivated only to support them.

 

in everything that I do. But I need, you know, it’ll be an ongoing process for anyone that was there. And in fact, even, you know, community members who weren’t there, but are feeling that secondhand trauma. And this is going to be a long process of healing and recovery for the community. I just have to channel those very real emotions I have into making sure that the decisions I make are empathetic, that they are putting people first.

 

that politics doesn’t come into it when we’re dealing with a national tragedy. But that I feel I’ve shared something with the community and in some ways that’s helped me because we all feel so helpless. it’s, yeah, exactly.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (11:19)

point of connection. Changing tack if we may. ⁓ Politics has been criticized and probably fairly so for toxic cultures up on the hill and outdated power dynamics. What’s your experience been?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (11:41)

I understandably politics has had a bad rap, politicians have had a bad rap. A lot of the people who observe through their TVs and online ⁓ feel like some politicians are in it for themselves, that they’re out of touch. And I understand all of that. My experience has actually been a pretty positive one. I entered parliament only three years ago. I think a lot of work had been done by my predecessors in terms of

 

calling out some of the bad behavior and addressing it. And in New South Wales Parliament, the Liberals Party Room is ⁓ almost half made up of women here. And we have a lot of young people. There are 10 millennials in our group. So we have a really balanced ⁓ party room. And I think that helps as well. There used to be a culture of a lot of drinking in Parliament, when there were the late night sittings. That just doesn’t happen anymore.

 

So I feel like it’s been incredibly positive that that doesn’t mean there’s not a lot of work to be done. But perhaps we’re also fortunate in New South Wales maybe compared to federal parliament where there might be bigger Stouches and maybe bigger Egos.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (12:55)

You may well be right. You may well be right. So Kellie, ⁓ do women in politics need to operate like the boys or is there an opportunity to elevate leadership and lead by example?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (13:12)

Maybe in the past they had to be a bit like the blokes. Look, I have to say though, there is an appetite for empathetic leadership. ⁓ Voters like voting for women because they see that we are pragmatic, that we are values-based, that we’re perhaps a little more consultative. By and large, a little less ego. ⁓

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (13:16)

federal mob.

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (13:40)

And I say that as a broad sense, of course there are exceptions, but I believe when women bring their true selves to politics, when they are authentic, when they are speaking on behalf of communities, driven by their lived experience, that makes us powerful. And they are values and leadership qualities that the community is crying out for.

 

So that is where if we bring our authentic selves to the chamber, to our public life, that is why people are wanting to vote for us. I think gone are the days of having to be like the boys to compete with the boys. These days, women are valued for the qualities they bring. And that’s not to diminish the values of men either and the qualities that they bring that are sometimes different. We work best when we’re in partnership.

 

And we have a variety of different skills. you know, I, but I do think that these days leadership isn’t about being combative. Leadership is not about clashes in the chamber. Leadership isn’t about opposing for the sake of opposing. True leadership in my mind is about reaching consensus, putting people at the heart of every decision you make and bringing your authentic self.

 

the life that you’ve lived into public life. And when you do that, people resonate with that. And I think that’s very positive for politics and public life.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (15:16)

And may that resonate beyond politics into every boardroom around the country because they’re great values. Thank you, Kellie.

 

You’re listening to The Power of Women podcasts and I’m talking with Kellie Sloane, Liberal Leader for New South Wales in Australia. And coming up, we’re going to explore if women lead differently.

 

If you’re loving the Power of Women podcasts, be sure to jump onto our YouTube channel and hit that subscribe button to ensure you never miss an episode. Kellie, the rise of women across the political spectrum and including the Teals has really disrupted that traditional pathway to power. In your view, does gender matter in politics?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (16:07)

Gender matters only in so much as it brings different perspectives into the chamber and into the development of public policy. I equally think that diversity of cultures and experience, ⁓ geographies is as important as well. So where we have almost half of our party room in New South Wales is females, so that’s a really good thing, but I’d like to see more diversity in terms of experience and upbringing and background as well. And that’s something that we have to consistently work on.

 

And I think if we have more voices at the table testing our ideas, challenging our ideas, that is really healthy for democracy.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (16:45)

That’s the ultimate boardroom, isn’t it? Testing and challenging. like that very much. Kellie, how do you actually describe your leadership style?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (16:55)

I like to think of myself as an empathetic leader, that I will be bipartisan when it matters, bring people together, but equally I can be tough. But I can be tough in the same breath as being kind. And I think, I hope that’s the kind of leadership that I’m bringing that people see in me. That someone who will always seek solutions before combat. ⁓

 

but that when the government needs to be held to account and when we have better ideas, we will forcefully prosecute those ideas. ⁓ So tough but kind. I hope that’s what people see in me.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (17:37)

We like that very much. you’re, am I right in saying would be the third liberal leader for, female liberal leader for New South Wales Parliament? was someone who preceded Gladys previously was there?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (17:55)

So

 

there was Christina Keneally ⁓ was a female premier. ⁓ And then look, we’ve had a long history though of women in the New South Wales Parliament. The first woman and her name was Millicent Preston Stanley was elected 100 years ago. And she was also the member for the Eastern suburbs. And she was a firebrand conservative woman, right? And she got into that parliament with all the blokes and she advocated strongly.

 

⁓ for women to have access to their kids in divorce, ⁓ a whole lot of social issues. That’s Incredibly groundbreaking and quite inspiring. So ⁓ we’ve had a long line of conservative women in politics. ⁓ But yeah, until sort of the last couple of decades, not as many women as we might have liked.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (18:31)

at that time.

 

Yeah, so if you look to more recent times, what do you think are the most significant changes women have brought to the fore over the last decade?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (19:00)

think women in leadership have made us feel safe in times of crisis. ⁓ I’m thinking particularly about Gladys Berejiklian as the New South Wales Premier during COVID, her work ethic, her diligence, turning up every day and we watched her on the TV every day looking at those numbers. That was an incredible strength and comfort to the people of New South Wales.

 

I also think that we have demonstrated more broadly, ⁓ females in leadership everywhere, that sort of willingness to bring people together to find solutions, ⁓ that understanding of community and the value of community and decision making. And there are plenty of blokes who recognise that as well, but women bring a different voice to it sometimes. And we bring an experience of

 

I guess raising families, the challenges of paying the bills, the juggle that we bring. And often, I think my observation has been whether it’s women who ⁓ have achieved ⁓ significant promotions in business as CEOs or in media like yourself or have gone into politics, we’re often really ready for those roles because

 

It’s a problem that we doubt ourselves so much in the lead up to it. We’ve had to work so hard to overcome so many things or juggle so many things, family and work and the mental load and all the rest of it. That by the time we jump into big roles, we battle hardened, we’re ready, we know how to juggle, we know how to prioritize and we know how to get the job done with as little messing around as possible.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (20:45)

think if you look forward to the Millennials who are in your rooms, do you think they’ll be having these same conversations about women at the table as we are or do you think it will have been put to bed by this?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (21:01)

I have to say we don’t even talk about it in our party room ⁓ as an issue. In fact, I stood up when I announced my first shadow cabinet and all my new shadow ministers. One of the journalists asked me, what’s the gender makeup? And I had to stop. And I can honestly tell you, I had not even thought about gender. And afterwards I reflected on that and thought,

 

That’s pretty good that we’re not talking about it in our party room. And I wish that for our federal colleagues and for other party rooms. But the conversations that we’re having are not about whether you have ovaries or not. They’re about how can we help families ⁓ get ahead? How can we help young female entrepreneurs succeed and get rid of the red tape? How can we provide more flexible work and home solutions so that women can get ahead without having to put family last?

 

⁓ They’re the conversations that we’re having. Women have told me, business women that I’ve met with, that they want better economic conditions, they want ⁓ better workplace laws, they want less government interference, they want to make sure that transport infrastructure is being developed so that they can get home faster.

 

And these are all things that Liberal governments have done successfully over the last few terms and will continue to advocate for in our policies.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (22:22)

Yeah, fantastic. So, March 2027 is approaching at a rate of knots. It is. And you’ve described your new shadow ministry as government ready. What would you like your constituents to understand around what that actually means?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (22:42)

Well, it means that we’ve got an incredible team ⁓ of former government ministers who know how government works, who have that experience that’s really important. But equally, we have a group of young people coming through that understand the real concerns of young families and communities who know where the state’s heading, not just where it’s been. And I think that that mix in our party room is incredibly important.

 

And we are all inspired by our predecessors who built an incredible legacy in New South Wales of transport infrastructure, of metros, of new hospitals, ⁓ and that we want to be ambitious for our state too. So we will be an ambitious team with great experience, ready to govern, and ready to ⁓ remind families in New South Wales who are finding it really tough that there is a better way forward.

 

because right across our country, cost of living is declining, ⁓ government bureaucracy is growing, union influence is increasing and small businesses are closing at a rate of knots. So we will present a policy platform over the coming months that we hope will be hopeful, ⁓ that will be ambitious and that they’ll see in my team.

 

not just me as leader, as a capable leader and a future Premier, but a team that will be incredibly strong for New South Wales.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (24:08)

Yeah, wonderful. Kellie, I appreciate the first few weeks of your role were certainly ⁓ extraordinary. Outside of that, the shift to politics lived up to your expectations?

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (24:28)

It’s probably exceeded my expectations. I have seen the power that can come from good opposition. So it’s not just about jumping in and trying to get into government. We have developed policy that the government has adopted from the opposition benches. That’s really satisfying. We’ve also produced amendments to government legislation that have succeeded.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (24:51)

And that’s what a good opposition does.

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (24:53)

It’s so healthy for the state. I have equally worked in a bipartisan fashion with the government to get good legislation through and to make what I’ve thought is ordinary legislation better. ⁓ I want the Premier and his team, every time they produce a policy, to be looking over their shoulder saying, what would Kellie think? What would the opposition say about this?

 

and sure that they dot the I’s and cross the T’s and sharpen their pencils and make sure that they are delivering the best for New South Wales. So at the very minimum, my job is to make sure that we hold this government to account, that they become a better government because of a tough opposition. And at the very best, then I hope to be in office in a year from now. But I’ve been incredibly satisfied by the work we’ve done in parliament, but also I have to say,

 

You know, nothing prepares you just for ⁓ how much you care for your community as a local member of parliament. And I get incredible satisfaction out of the small community events, out of going down to the surf clubs, about speaking to locals and trying to make a difference on the everyday issues that matter to them. And it’s a real privilege. I have to say it’s an incredible privilege.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (26:08)

Kellie, I’ve got a couple of rapid fire questions to throw at you as we wrap up today’s conversation. One issue you believe politics has underestimated for too long.

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (26:21)

Social cohesion, we’ve taken that for granted. We need to try harder. We cannot say she’ll be right when it comes to our multicultural communities.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (26:32)

And leaderships treat Australia needs more of right now.

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (26:37)

at courage to make tough decisions even when they’re not popular. I think we need that right now. We can’t please everyone.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (26:46)

and one decision principle you’ll never compromise on.

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (26:51)

Integrity. Yeah, you have to stick to your values. I want to leave politics with my integrity intact and hopefully that will serve me well while I’m in the job.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (27:02)

Yeah, fantastic. Kellie, what a ⁓ refreshing and resounding positive take on life in politics and what your views are. I commend you on that and thank you for that and I have no doubt you become a role model for other women considering a path in politics. I know I grew up

 

As a school kid, if you asked me what I wanted to be, for years it was a politician and somehow it fell off the radar and I commend you on making that decision because it is a huge sacrifice. You’re a wife, you’re a mother, you’ve got the role of opposition which I sometimes think is tougher than the role of leading and you are doing it with such grace and conviction. It’s so impressive.

 

KELLIE SLOANE MP [GUEST] (27:54)

Thank you, Di And can I just say we need women like you in politics. It is never too late to step up. Can I also say to your viewers and listeners that we need more people in politics, whether it’s front and centre like me, whether it’s behind the scenes, whether it’s joining parties, whether it’s my party, the Liberal Party or the Labor Party, have a voice, have a say, because we need more people contributing to our democracy right now.

 

valuing our democracy and making sure that we hold every politician to account. So ⁓ thank you and thank you for the community that you provide for women.

 

DI GILLETT [HOST] (28:29)

Thank you Kellie and thank you so much for joining me today. I know that the time of a politician is scarce and heavily scheduled so much appreciation. Until next time.

 

Chapters:

00:00 The Power of Women in Politics

02:21 Kellie Sloane’s Journey to Politics

04:52 Navigating the Challenges of Public Life

07:04 Leadership in Times of Crisis

12:55 Empathetic Leadership: A New Approach

15:16 Leadership Styles and Gender Dynamics

12:55 Empathetic Leadership: A New Approach

28:29 The Future of Women in Political Leadership

 

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AI Won’t Replace You – However People Who Use It Will

AI Won’t Replace You – However People Who Use It Will

Artificial intelligence is no longer theoretical – it is actively reshaping careers, leadership, and relevance.

In this episode of the Power Of Women Podcast, Di Gillett is joined by Kelly Slessor, one of Australia’s most respected AI strategists, digital innovators, and retail technology leaders, for a deeply human conversation about what AI really means for women, work and leadership.

Kelly was building AI personalisation platforms years before ChatGPT entered the mainstream. Today, she works at the intersection of artificial intelligence, emotional intelligence, and human systems, advising businesses, educating leaders, and advocating for responsible, human-centred technology.

This episode moves beyond surface-level AI commentary to ask harder, more consequential questions:

Who becomes more powerful in an AI-enabled world?

Why fear is the wrong response – and education is the only viable one

Why women are underrepresented in AI leadership, yet uniquely positioned to shape its future

How AI data is shaped by men and women’s voices are paramount

How fostering children has profoundly shaped Kelly’s leadership philosophy, empathy and perspective

Why “balance” is a myth – and what actually sustains women operating at pace

This is not a conversation about keeping up.
It’s a conversation about agency, authorship and relevance, in a world that is moving faster than most organisations are willing to admit.

 

➡️We explore:

  • Why AI will augment people, not replace them
  • The real risk for leaders who delay AI education
  • How repetitive work will disappear and what replaces it
  • Why emotional intelligence is the missing ingredient in AI development
  • How women can leapfrog professionally by engaging with AI now
  • The leadership lessons Kelly learned through foster care
  • Why safety, belonging, and trust matter in teams and in technology

 

➡️Key Takeaways:

AI literacy is now a leadership requirement, not a technical skill

People who understand AI will outpace those who avoid it

Women’s lived experience strengthens, not weakens their leadership in tech

Education dissolves fear faster than policy or process

The future belongs to leaders who integrate HI (Human Intelligence) with AI

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The Audacity To Be Free: Why Women’s Lives Must Never Be Negotiated

The Audacity To Be Free: Why Women’s Lives Must Never Be Negotiated

What does it mean to be free, really free, when freedom has never been guaranteed?

In this rerun episode of the Power Of Women Podcast, I sit down with Hana Assafiri OAM: activist, entrepreneur, author, and founder of the iconic Moroccan Soup Bar. Hana’s story is not framed by victimhood, but by defiance, clarity, and conviction.

Born to Lebanese and Moroccan parents, Hana grew up between cultures, navigating deeply gendered expectations. At just 15, she was forced into an arranged marriage in Australia. A decision enabled by cultural deference and systemic failure. What followed was violence, isolation, and a brutal lesson in how easily institutions abandon women when silence is prioritised over safety.

Yet this is not a story of despair.

Hana speaks powerfully about the small, human acts of kindness that changed her path: a shop assistant, a teacher, a stranger who treated her with dignity when the system would not. Those moments became the foundation for her life’s work.

In 1998, she founded the Moroccan Soup Bar, not as a charity, but as a radical, self-sustaining model where women find safety, skills, income, and community. Twenty-five years on, it stands as proof that real change is possible when women are trusted to lead it.

As Hana makes clear: freedom is not survival. Freedom is choice, dignity, and the audacity to create something better, for ourselves and for others.

 

We explore :

Why freedom must mean more than survival

Arranged marriage, violence, and institutional failure

The life-changing power of kindness from strangers

Why women don’t need charity – they need pathways

How the Moroccan Soup Bar became a blueprint for change

Why solutions must be driven by women and supported by men.

 

Hana said:

““Life doesn’t come with a trigger warning.””

“Women don’t need pity and charity. They need opportunity.”

Chapters:

00:00 Defining Meaning and Purpose in Life

04:39The Journey to Freedom: Hannah’s Story

07:32 Cultural Expectations and Gender Roles

10:45 The Impact of Arranged Marriages

13:31 Navigating Violence and Trauma

16:32 Empathy and Understanding in Relationships

19:33 The Role of Kindness in Healing

22:37 Systemic Failures and Women’s Services

25:32 Creating Safe Spaces: The Moroccan Soup Bar

28:38 Addressing Gender-Based Violence

31:23 Empowerment Through Intuition and Community

34:27 Building a Supportive Environment for Women

37:26 The Importance of Education and Skills Training

40:28 Challenging Societal Norms and Attitudes

43:20 The Role of Men in Supporting Women

46:24 The Audacity to Be Free: A Call to Action

 

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Women’s Healthcare Reimagined: A Revolutionary Approach

Women’s Healthcare Reimagined: A Revolutionary Approach

This was such an import episode from earlier in the year, we were compelled to replay it for you.

Women’s healthcare is broken and Hema Prakash is rebuilding it from the ground up.

Hema is the co-founder of Ponti Health, Australia’s first integrated women’s health clinic built on the principles of slow medicine, agency, and whole-woman care. With more than 25 years across technology, private equity and innovation, she brings systems thinking, cultural awareness, and lived experience to redefining menopause and midlife healthcare.

In this powerful conversation, Hema shares how decades in tech and private equity, a global upbringing, and her own perimenopause journey shaped the creation of Ponti Health – an integrated clinic reimagining women’s health through slow medicine, time-rich consultations, and a fiercely woman-centred model of care.

Hema challenges the medicalisation of menopause, exposes gaps in the Australian healthcare system, and lays out the truth: women have been underserved for too long. The revolution begins with giving women back their intelligence, agency, and time.

 

You’ll hear:

  • Menopause should be viewed as a transition, not a medical condition
  • How Ponti Health blends East, West, tech and time into a groundbreaking new model
  • Women need to prioritise their health and well-being
  • Financial independence is crucial for women in midlife
  • Self-care is essential for maintaining health and happiness and long-term wellbeing
  • The dangerously underfunded state of women’s health research
  • The leadership philosophy Hema lives by: humility, empathy and excellence
  • Intergenerational friendships can provide valuable wisdom.

 

Hema said:

“Ponti Health is the first of its kind in Australia.”

“Women need to be financially independent.”

“We need to support our researchers.”

Chapters:

00:00 The Journey of Hema Prakash: From Curiosity to Leadership

02:55 Founding Ponti Health: A New Era in Women’s Health

14:22 Navigating Male-Dominated Industries: Lessons in Humility and Learning

19:23 The Personal Journey: Understanding Menopause and Women’s Health

27:14 Challenging the Medicalisation of Menopause

38:33 The Importance of Self-Care and Prioritising Health

50:56 Legacy and the Future: Empowering Women in Midlife

 

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Exclusive Podcast Interview with Jo Tarnawsky: The Cost of Speaking Out

Exclusive Podcast Interview with Jo Tarnawsky: The Cost of Speaking Out

In this exclusive podcast episode on the Power Of Women Podcast, former diplomat and Chief of Staff to the Deputy Prime Minister of Australia Jo Tarnawsky sits down with Di Gillett to share the story that made national headlines ~ and the personal cost of speaking out against workplace toxicity.

From representing Australia across international postings to surviving breast cancer abroad, Jo’s life has been defined by courage, integrity and purpose. But it was her decision to speak out against systemic workplace abuse that would test every one of those qualities.

Through a raw and revealing conversation, Jo explores what happens when the system fails to protect its own, and why finding your people matters more than finding the crowd.

 

You’ll hear:

How Jo’s career in diplomacy prepared her for life’s toughest moments

The story behind her cancer diagnosis and recovery abroad

What really happens when the system lets you down

How to rebuild after workplace trauma

Why speaking out comes with a cost — but silence costs more

What she is doing now.

This is a conversation about courage, purpose and the power of standing up ~ not just for yourself, but for the women who will come after you.

 

Jo said:

Standing up and speaking out comes with a cost – but so does remaining silent.

Finding your people can be a game-changer. You don’t need a large crowd, just the right ones.

Finding your people can be a game-changer. You don’t need a large crowd, just the right ones.

 

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📖 Read the full transcript of this conversation here👇

JO TARNAWSKY (00:00)

I believe that courage and integrity has never been more important. I think that standing up and speaking out comes with a cost, but so does remaining silent. And I think finding your people can make a world of difference.

 

I was just blindsided. So I think that’s probably something that maybe your audience can imagine that you get these life quakes. I was still trying to make sense of it because it didn’t make sense to me. It’s when I tried to return to the workplace, the prime minister’s chief of staff just told me, well, basically that that was a ridiculous, you know,

 

Of course, I can’t come back, but all my things are still in my office. And how does the Deputy Prime Minister’s Chief of Staff just disappear with no notice midway through a Tuesday? It just didn’t make any sense.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (00:48)

I’m Di Gillett and welcome to the Power of Women Podcast.

 

today’s story is a powerful one and one that in fact did make the headlines in 2025. It’s a conversation about the impact of toxic workplaces,

 

what happens when the system lets you down, the cost of speaking out, but most importantly,

 

how not to let those experiences define you or hold you back.

 

Jo Tarnawsky welcome to the Power of Women podcast.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (01:21)

Thank you so much, Di. It’s absolutely wonderful to be here. I’m happy to say I’ve caught a number of your podcasts this year. I think it’s an incredible series. So thank you for doing it.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (01:32)

firstly, I want to say thank you for choosing the Power of Women podcast to be the very first time to talk about your story in a bit more detail publicly, because I know it takes courage to do that, and I am really honored that you’ve trusted us with this today. Before we step into the more challenging part of your recent experience, I would love to hear about your career journey, you’ve held

 

senior roles at the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade. And you have represented Australia across international postings. Can you take us through some of the highlights and some of your proudest moments?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (02:13)

Yeah, absolutely. ⁓ I’ve been really lucky to have almost two decades of experience working in diplomacy and worked in some incredible places, met some wonderful people, doing some really interesting things. ⁓ I think one of the things about being a diplomat is that ⁓ on any given day you could be wearing multiple hats. You can be an advisor, an event planner. You could be helping someone with a lost passport or a consular issue.

 

You can be writing some kind of geopolitical analysis, meeting with international dignitaries, a whole range of things. ⁓ And, you know, I think it also comes with some challenges. think there’s a public sort of perception of diplomats at cocktail parties and and traveling around. But I’ve got to say that, you know, this

 

There’s a whole lot of other work that goes often unseen behind the scenes. I know, for example, that ⁓ across my experience, ⁓ in addition to, of course, attending cocktail parties, I’ve been deployed to war zones. ⁓ I’ve been held up at gunpoint more than once. I was nearly kidnapped at one point. And a lot of the work that’s done is invisible. ⁓ But of course, it also gives you extraordinary opportunities.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (03:36)

Are you out to shed any light on some of those more challenging moments? Gunpoint and kidnap? is that confidential?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (03:44)

No, In one instance, I was in Zimbabwe during some of the height of the Mugabe era. And I just happened to be in the wrong place, wrong time. And I was driving to work. I was there on a short term mission during it was around 2007, 2008, when there was a runoff election. Mugabe had not won the first time around. And I was on my way to the embassy and Mugabe’s

 

⁓ entourage happened to go by and I was front of line and you see it coming, there’s warning sort of motorcycles I pulled over to the side of the road but I just happened to be near where his residence was and so he was going to pass in front of me and so some lovely looking chaps with some very large weapons came right up to where I was sitting in the driver’s seat and held a gun basically to my head ⁓ just to make sure I

 

wasn’t going to take one for humanity basically, and stayed where I was. So that was one of them. And then on another ⁓ incident, ⁓ I was acting High Commissioner in Trinidad and Tobago for a couple of months. A lot of people sort of, again, think of the Caribbean as this, as the beaches and the, you know, they have very romantic notions, but actually Trinidad and Tobago, you can see the coast of Venezuela from there. There’s a run of drugs and

 

all sorts of things that go through that channel. There’s actually like a murder count when I was there on the front pages of the paper. And they just had a huge security crackdown for the Summit of Americas where President Obama and a whole range of other leaders had come in. so crime had sort of stopped or been contained for about two months. And then, of course, once all of that left, it spiked.

 

And again, wrong place, wrong time. And I ended up being somewhere that was subject to an armed robbery for where there was about eight gunmen that held me up. Yeah, that was definitely one of the more traumatizing experiences that I had. And yeah, but I’ve got to say that, you know, I’ve worked a defect with a whole range of people that have had their own experiences and

 

have gone out and done the hard yards and so many people have a story either being deployed to war zones or working through tsunamis or being at embassies that have been attacked. And so it really is sometimes frontline service in the national interest.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (06:23)

Is there professional counselling that is offered to diplomats who’ve experienced such things?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (06:30)

There is now. When I first started back in 2002, I remember being one of the first people called in the middle of the night when the first Bali bombings hit. We were sort of called out of bed. And to be honest, I was a graduate. I thought it was a training, a training sort of event. was nothing on the news. This is before social.

 

it was around 2002, 2003, yeah, 2002 maybe. And so we were called in the middle of the night, early one Sunday morning, even by the time we got to headquarters, the religious programming was still on the news. So it all kind of felt a bit surreal. But then when they flicked the phones on, were people already, there were already online families waiting to get through. And it was real.

 

And it even at that early stage took a little while for counselors to sort of be debriefing after every shift, because you’d have quite, you know, you’d have people that may have lost loved ones or just people who had canceled their holidays. And there was no sort of, couldn’t work out who would be the angst, but you would sometimes be the first person that was speaking to. And so a lot of that confusion or anger was directed at you. And.

 

So they’ve got better, whereas I think there’s now there’s multiple full-time counselors that go out to visit embassies, posts, as we call them, on a regular basis ⁓ to check in. They have people on that. And so it’s got, the system has got a lot better ⁓ in ensuring that sort of support is available to staff.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (08:05)

So how many years all up did you spend overseas, Jo?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (08:09)

So on and off my first posting, four year, three year posting was in Papua New Guinea. Then I did a series of jobs over several years where it might be deployed somewhere for just a couple of months. So that included places like Iraq, like Zimbabwe, Kenya. I worked on a kidnapping case there, Ethiopia to help VIP visits come in, Trinidad and Tobago, Fiji. There was a whole range of things. And then my very last posting was actually to Italy.

 

where I was acting ambassador for the first six months and then I was deputy ambassador for the next three years. I was also worked out at the World Food Program, the United Nations World Food Program and a couple of the other international organizations. And we were also accredited to Libya, Albania, San Marino, which, you know, also it’s a small embassy And

 

everybody sort of thinks, wow, Italy, how easy it had the highest number of lost and stolen passports there at the time. This is pre-COVID, so it definitely kept us on our toes. But the other thing that happened to me while I was there was I got cancer. so, yes, so it wasn’t all quite ⁓ Prosecco at the Coliseum. ⁓

 

DI GILLETT – Host (09:22)

What

 

do you do when that happens in a foreign country? Do you jump a plane and head home or do you start to deal with it in country?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (09:28)

think it depends on the country. Obviously most of the other places, if I had been there when I had been diagnosed, you would want to come home. But I was a long way from home in a country which did have medical procedures. And to be honest with you, I had never needed anything more than a vaccination. ⁓ And something in my gut just told me they can do the surgery here next Wednesday. And even though there was a few questions around how much would it cost and.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (09:36)

put it home.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (09:58)

Could I come home and all those sorts of things. It was really lucky that I trusted my gut because when they got the tumor out, it was breast cancer and they saw how fast it was running and the type I had tripped. Time is everything. They say that if I had got four to six weeks later, I wouldn’t be here now.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (10:10)

Time was everything.

 

There’s a lot to be said for intuition.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (10:19)

Yes, there is. of course I just, you never think it’s going to happen to you until it does. And, you know, then you’ve just got to go with it really. And so I had the full dense dose chemo, lost my hair. ⁓ And I think one of the hardest parts of leaving Italy was not the gelato shops on every corner ⁓ and the historic buildings. It was actually leaving my oncologist. Cause you also developed quite a rapport.

 

obviously with somebody you’ve come to know through one of those experiences. Yeah.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (10:52)

Did you work through the procedure in the chemo or did you take time out completely to recover?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (10:59)

I worked through most of it, not the early stages. DFAT had originally wanted me to come home. And so I was at pains not to be a problem. And I, you know, so what I did was I took off for surgery. I also didn’t know what was coming in hindsight. So by the time I had surgery, no one would talk to me about chemo.

 

And in fact, defat would only sort of sign off on the surgery if there wasn’t mention of it. And if, you know, it didn’t look like I was going to need sort of long-term help. And so it wasn’t until after they got the tumor results that they realized actually you you need chemo and you need it fast. So it’s, then with that, they can tell you exactly when you’re going to start losing your hair. And so I decided that I would go through that and I, and so it’s around day 14 or so that it starts falling out. And, you know, my daughter was only three.

 

She was going through a Rapunzel phase, you know, focusing on getting her through that. And so I waited for my hair to fall out. But actually because of cutbacks in the overseas service, I had actually absorbed another whole full-time role about six months earlier. I was doing two jobs anyway. So what they did was they ended up bringing somebody in on a short-term mission so that I just did one job and they did the other. But then the other thing too was,

 

I was very careful. Exercise was the thing that was absolutely a game changer for me. And so I just worked strict hours. I stuck to my schedule for that. And I think too what was also helpful was having a routine at home. So I pulled back the hours, I pulled back the scope, I wasn’t silly about it, but having some routine brought some normality. I think it also helped me return to the workforce more fully when my treatment ended because

 

It wasn’t I didn’t have this gigantic mountain to cross. I’d kind of kept a little bit in the loop as to what was happening. I mean, that said, anyone who’s been through treatment knows the fatigue, the physical fatigue knocks you off your feet. Once your hair grows, starts growing back after treatment’s finished, everybody thinks it’s over. And to be honest with you, that was one of the hardest experiences was when treatment ended because there was nothing left to fight and you just had to, you know, you were waiting for it to come back.

 

But I think mentally too, like the cognitive impacts aren’t something that people fully appreciate. So I know the second cocktail that I had really did affect like my spelling. I’d always been a great speller. Suddenly I was missing bits and emails. I wouldn’t say it’s like dementia or Alzheimer’s, but there was a moment, you know, where I would look at my daughter. Where I looked at my daughter and knew she was my daughter. I could not remember her name. And so.

 

I had to so I don’t speak Italian very well at all. And part of that was because at the end of that, what I needed to get back up was actually my mother tongue English. I needed to make sure that my spelling and everything that I so that I could build back my life, because I was the primary breadwinner, could get back on track and just sort of picking your battles and sort of working your way back through the fatigue, through the cognitive impact and a lot.

 

you know, and getting back to a place where eventually, as we know, became chief of staff to the deputy prime minister. And that was a real test. How far have I come? Because you really everything in the kit and that, and, know, and I, did, I loved it. I loved that job. and I had the energy and all of that. And it showed how far I had come. Like it was about five years later.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (14:23)

Absolutely.

 

say how many how many years years later so

 

JO TARNAWSKY (14:43)

So I crossed the magic five year mark about a month into the job. And I still say that a little cautiously because I think anybody who’s gone through it, you don’t have that casual sort of confidence about what the future holds. But certainly the doctors stop worrying about you a little bit from that point and it sort of back into more normal monitoring.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (15:08)

So you have held some incredibly important strategic roles that are kind of the pinnacle of public service and in some pretty tough destinations around the world. You have faced into a personal health battle being breast cancer in a foreign country. You’ve got through that, you’ve worked your way through that, dropping one job and

 

just working through just the one position. But that compared to perhaps more recent experience just highlights what strength of character you must have to do what you’ve done in your career, So my question’s gonna be, If you had carte blanche to speak out and the Power Of Women Podcast is your stage,

 

Given what the last 18 months or so have been, where should we start?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (16:10)

Yeah, that’s a good question. Firstly, I think you’re right. I do think that some of these other experiences helped prepare me. Bad things can happen to us at any time. And I think the only choice we ever have is sort of how we respond. But if I have

 

carte blanche, I think the most useful thing I can do for you and your audience. It’s not necessarily going through the detail blow by blow sort of thing, but it’s also about what we take from these experiences. So. For me, I think I think we there are moments in your life where you wake up in the morning and you have absolutely no idea that your life is about to change and that. No trigger warning.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (16:52)

No trigger warning.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (16:55)

And that something or someone is about to come across your path and by day’s end, your life is different from that moment on. And so for me, that, that day was Tuesday, the 30th of April, 2024. I had just, yeah. And there will be parts that are imprinted. and that’s okay. for me, I, it came through a phone call.

 

And it was a phone call with my boss, who is the deputy prime minister. We had just come back from an extraordinary trip to Ukraine. The entire trip had fallen apart while we were en route. And it was lucky in a way that I had this diplomatic background and I had done VIP visits before and worked in war zones. ⁓ I, you know, had a range of global contacts at high levels that I’d sort of established through my work, because I needed to call on all of them to be able to pull off

 

weaving it all back together. It is the single hardest job I’ve ever done. And so at the end of like, I was really grateful that I, you know, we were able to pull it together. But what had happened as part of that is on the way home, I had decided to raise with him privately that I had been experiencing some issues in the workplace that was starting to have an impact on me. And I, you know, tried to manage this for a while, but I had reached a point where I felt that I needed to draw them to his attention. He had

 

responded to me ⁓ in all of this was in text messages that, ⁓ you know, he really valued me. He was very grateful for my work and we should have a chat. And so that chat happened that day. There was no time set for it. In fact, we played a bit of phone tag that morning, ⁓ which was really normal in my job. ⁓ And this is a man I had known for more than 10 years who had actually asked me specifically to come to Parliament House to do that job for him.

 

And so I had no reason to sort of be too concerned. I had just wanted to raise it with him so that he knew and not to inadvertently feed the dynamics. And the conversation took a look, a really unexpected and devastating turn. And by the end of that phone call, which happened at around 11 o’clock in the morning, went for about 45 minutes.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (19:11)

Was the phone call one-on-one?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (19:13)

It was one-on-one, I just happened, thank goodness I was sort of, mean, thank goodness in some ways I was on my own. but at the same time, I didn’t have a support person or anything. Like I said, it just didn’t seem anything other than routine. And, by the end of that phone call, I had basically been stood down from traveling, ⁓ the next day and to see him, he had wanted me to take leave, saying that.

 

You know, I needed a break and not just a few days, take a few weeks off the books. And I, you know, he had sort of said. I had asked him because it was so the conversation has taken such a weird turn. said, you know, are you asking me to start looking for another job? And he it sounded at the time like he had sort of reluctantly agreed to that. But I found out later he’d had ⁓ he’d actually had a conversation.

 

prior to the phone call. So he knew what he was doing when he went into it. ⁓ And his last parting, chilling words to me were, I know how to manage this, trust me. Because I had asked, yeah. And again, this is a man I’d known for a long time. And so I was shocked. I was in trauma, probably. mean, mostly it was just shock at that point. But I’m also somebody who follows rules and doesn’t like to make a mess.

 

had no reason to trust that I wouldn’t take this time off.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (20:40)

your intuition telling you Jo

 

JO TARNAWSKY (20:42)

I was just blindsided. So I think that’s probably something that maybe your audience can imagine that you get these life quakes. and I hadn’t fully processed it. I was still trying to make sense of it because it didn’t make sense to me. But then I guess to sort of cut a really long story short, it’s sort of the what happens next. It’s when I tried to return to the workplace, the prime minister’s chief of staff just told me, well, basically that that was a ridiculous, you know,

 

Of course, I can’t come back, but all my things are still in my office. And how does the Deputy Prime Minister’s Chief of Staff just disappear with no notice midway through a Tuesday? It just didn’t make any sense.

 

And then at the same time, the Parliamentary Workplace Service was trying, had told me that they were going to cut off my counselling. And this was at a point where I was isolated alone. I was having nightmares.

 

I was in one of the deepest, darkest holes of my life, not knowing what was going on. And so at that point I got a lawyer who, and even then nobody knew what was going on. was all very quiet.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (21:44)

There was no public announcement to the collegiate workforce that you were stepping back.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (21:51)

Nope. then they got that step at least got my counseling reinstated. And then I was allowed back on the work site at Parliament House. But at the 11th hour, new conditions were put on me that were basically that I couldn’t go into my own office without 24 hours of written notice and a special project had been set up for me. So I would then go into work and, know, as and I was trying to find.

 

other jobs so I could exit, but I would often come second and I was putting on a brave face while I was coping with the biggest trauma of my life. And I had no contact ⁓ with my boss or the office. It was just bizarre and it was deeply traumatic and I was trying to cover for myself and for everyone. And so I would literally sit in the car park and cry some mornings. I started having panic attacks because I would have to use everything I had to go and put on a brave face.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (22:46)

and we’ll.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (22:46)

And

 

yeah, and so it was five long months before I went public. had kind of got back into a corner where the special project was ending. I knew I wasn’t able to go back into my own office.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (22:56)

And with special project code for sidelined really.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (23:00)

it wasn’t called a special project. was, mean, there’s been a whole lot of workplace reforms that were ⁓ put out after the Jenkins review and the set the standard. And there has been some improvements around training and things. And I’ve got a bit of a background and a passion for this actually. I was a huge advocate for some of the workplace culture reforms and participated wherever I could. So I went around and as the most senior.

 

female chief of staff on the Hill during the winter break, when I met with all the chiefs about what they wish they had have known, you know, what training would be useful for them, all of that with the view of putting together a guide ⁓ to help future chiefs of staff. So it was kind of a bizarre situation because some of them would obviously share things with me and they had no idea what was going on. I was putting on the most professional face I possibly could. ⁓

 

And so yeah, it was five months before I went public when I’d sort of been backed into a corner because ⁓ this temporary project was ending. ⁓ didn’t seem to be any pathway back to my role. I still didn’t know what I’d done or why this had happened. was just…

 

DI GILLETT – Host (24:14)

Nobody

 

was informing you?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (24:16)

You were blinded. Yeah, just blinded. And ⁓ I’d come second and I just, I didn’t. And the options were, which many people do because of the power that you’re facing on the other side is to walk away quietly. the alternative choice, of course, is to say something. And in my mind, ⁓ they were both terrible choices, terrible options, I should say. But.

 

⁓ Part of it was informed by the fact that I think a large part of the trauma was the covering and the idea of walking away without saying something would mean I would have to keep doing that. My daughter had actually seen the impact at home and she was 11 at the time and she said, know, mum, maybe if you tell someone, maybe someone will help you. And that

 

that really stopped me in my tracks because I mean, I was in such a dark place and I thought, you know what, I owe it to her more than anything to do everything I can before this takes me. And the other thing is we teach kids around, you know, ⁓ if you’ve got a secret, yeah, if you’ve got a secret, there’s no secret too big that you shouldn’t share it, that we stand up to bad behavior and.

 

she’s about to go through high school and, and, you know, I couldn’t very well give her that advice if I wasn’t living it myself. And so, yeah, I thought about it for quite a while. wasn’t a rash decision. I knew it came with consequences. Um, and I’ve got to say, seeing myself on camera is like, I, not a thing. I, I’ve said to a number of people, think other than my fear of snakes.

 

seeing myself on TV. ⁓ And to this day, I have never watched that first press conference. I remember shaking. And I remember saying things. mean, I wrote, obviously I wrote what I said aloud, but I remember foreshadowing a few things which proved to become true, which is that I knew I would be iced out from that point. That’s how the system works and that people would rally around to protect him in their own power. And that’s exactly what happened. And so

 

They doubled down. I was lost out even more and isolated. ⁓ No one from the government ever checked on me. They passed the same lawyers that have been geared up for the Parliamentary Work Post Support Service that have been used by the Deputy Prime Minister to come cover. ⁓ They couldn’t give me guarantees around my confidentiality and privacy with some very personal information like psychologist records and medical records. They just said they’d give me a pseudonym.

 

And I just realized this isn’t going to work. And I wrote an open letter to the prime minister to this day. He’s never even acknowledged receipt. And so I made the very difficult decision to then embark on public and traumatic litigation. Let me tell you, it’s not for the faint of Yeah.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (27:29)

So Jo, what is the public interest story here? What should we know?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (27:35)

Well, I think a few things. think I have learned so much over this last year. I’ve learned about the prevalence, sadly, of toxic workplaces. I think in my case, Parliament, it was well documented. The set the standard report, the Jenkins review, as it’s called, ⁓ that had come on the back of some highly publicised cases at Parliament. 1700 people had come through, had spoken up as part of that review.

 

The now Prime Minister Anthony Albanese had stood in parliament in February 22 and made promises to keep women safe. Brittany Higgins and others were in the gallery when he made this speech. And said, you know, and the value of staffers ⁓ and to, you know, everybody needed to walk the talk. ⁓ And I think sadly what I’ve helped show is that while there has been some changes,

 

much of it is window dressing and much of the power imbalance still remains ⁓ and people are still very vulnerable. So there’s that. I think, too, the number of people that have reached out to me, particularly, I mean, I went I went very quiet on social media, shut down most accounts, but I kept LinkedIn open. And the amount of people that have reached out to me with stories of their own workplace ⁓ abuse, it is everywhere. It is a it’s almost like a quiet epidemic. And

 

I don’t really ever need to hear the details of people’s stories. I need, I basically get a sentence or two in and this is someone who speaks the same language and they know it. ⁓ You can recognise it in other people. And my psychologist, have a wonderful psychologist and she had sort of been a little bit worried about me when I went public sort of saying, Jo, you’ve got to put your own oxygen mask on before you help others.

 

⁓ I know you, she said, be careful, but I’ve got to say with a lot of these people, they did not reach out for one-on-one like me trying to fix their problem. Well, they were actually sort of backing it in and saying, we’re watching what you’re, what you’re doing is really important. Keep going. And, ⁓ the vast majority of those were women, not all, the vast majority. Yep.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (29:38)

I just wanted to share it.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (29:56)

And they were just letting me know that they supported me. And that wasn’t just after press conferences either. ⁓ It would be, it trickled right through, all the way through to today. I still get every week a couple of people reaching out because I’ve seen you.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (30:12)

Women, senior executives, or is it mixed?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (30:16)

I would say it’s really mixed in all different industries. There are some senior people and I think sometimes they reach out to me because it’s really difficult to know who to trust. And when I’ve been as public as I have, and I’ve been in the senior roles, I am potentially someone that understands. And particularly if they’ve been subject to what I would call upward bullying, which is a known type, there’s sort of a shame and not a lot of understanding around that. so again,

 

I think that can be, or if they’re in a high profile position, like I’ve had people that have got like post-nominals after their name, like orders of Australia and things get in contact with me. And It’s the shock and the trauma, but what I’ve learned, and here is the real public interest, I think, because I think it’s not just for individuals to know, but for workplaces, that often the targets of workplace abuse are not the people that we think necessarily in the schoolyard where we think of

 

⁓ really visible sorts of things that you can pinpoint or where the targets may be the weakest link, but more than more often than not, they’re high performing ethical people. And I think that’s why the trauma hits so bad because. You know, we spend a third of our lives at work. So they’re not just jobs. They are also part of who we are. And so when workplaces turn toxic.

 

It impacts everything. It impacts our health and confidence. It impacts our families and it impacts the future we see for ourselves. It is, like I said, a lifequake.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (31:52)

Jo, coming up, we’re going to talk more about your courageous story. If you’re loving the Power of Women podcast, be sure to jump onto our YouTube channel and hit that subscribe button to ensure you never miss an episode. Jo, you were chief of staff to the Deputy Prime Minister of Australia and the Minister of Defence before your world

 

literally blew up in front of your eyes? What caused you most grief?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (32:25)

That’s

 

another good question, did I? I think there’s a few things you grieve. So for me, this is the job I’d wanted since I was 12 years old. I’d gone to Parliament House when I was 12 and I’d met then Prime Minister Bob Hawke. I never wanted to be a politician, but I just wanted to be the key person next to the decision maker. And I didn’t know that’s what it was, but all the work I’d done, you

 

going to university at the ANU, which was near Parliament House, working at Parliament House as a university student. This was the job, like at the senior level, this is everything I’d worked for. So this was the dream. I loved my job. So there was a grief, I guess, in having it end so abruptly and everything. And so there’s a grief that I think you have to let go of the job. particularly when it’s

 

ended in such traumatic circumstances. But I think too, there’s a broader piece there around you, there’s a grief that comes because you feel so abandoned by the people and the workplace or the institution that you’ve given so much to. And I think that’s common for a lot of people who have gone through a toxic workplace experience.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (33:46)

Do you feel that your colleagues had abandoned you through their own choices or do you feel they had been told to keep their distance?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (33:56)

Both. think sometimes you don’t need to be told because you know the way it works. ⁓ But I do understand people were also told. So I think both. But I think this comes back to what something that I said and part of those fast things at the beginning, There is a real cost to speaking up ⁓ on these things, but there is also a cost to being silent So.

 

if you take it even broader, when I sort of look at what’s happening in the world right now, There is a cost to being silent because you vacate the space for others. There is a cost to not, you know, to just staying out of the way that it’s somebody else’s problem ⁓ because that can have a human impact as well. So for me, as I’ve explained, there was also a cost of covering and not speaking the truth.

 

⁓ I felt that that added to my trauma. and I think I was right. ⁓ I think when I looked at my options about walking away or standing up and saying something, I knew by getting up and saying something and shaking like a leaf and facing those cameras, it would get harder, but I could at least see an option where it might get better. And I did feel immediately like a weight had lifted because I told the truth. And I have met people who have left.

 

places that have been bad for them and who didn’t say anything and sometimes they’re carrying the trauma years down the track. It’s still eating them. Whereas I’ve got to say that my recovery has, I think, been helped by the fact that I felt that I had done everything I could to raise the flag ⁓ and I’ve been true to my values.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (35:42)

Did your daughter have something to say when you stepped forward and spoke out?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (35:47)

Yeah,

 

I think she felt very proud that she had ⁓ helped me fix it in her view.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (35:56)

How wonderful.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (35:59)

She’s such a great kid, you know, I’m so lucky. And when I look at the future, we need strong, courageous women like her. I think there’s a, get this wrong, but there’s this wonderful little internet thing I’ve seen on the internet where it’s strong women. May we be them, may we raise them. And so hopefully I’m doing that with her, but she definitely, she’s got very high EQ, she’s very kind.

 

She’s super smart with real world stuff for a kid of her age. I mean, she’s had that all her life, to be honest, when we go back to when I had cancer, and even as a three year old, we had tried to explain it to her in age appropriate ways. she’d obviously, kids pick up on things though. she, I woke up one morning and she was right in my face. It was, I think just before my surgery.

 

And she’d obviously been thinking about it and she’d come up to me and she’s right there and she, and she just slant in very gently. And she said, don’t worry, mommy, if you lose your hair, I’ll find it for you. Which is just, I’ll never forget that. And when my hair did start falling out and you shave it to, mean, I didn’t quite understand this till it happened to me, but it’s, it’s the weight and it sort of irritates the scalp. if you can.

 

Let go of that shaving helps. And she went round with a little dust band and sort of picked it all up. So she likes, I think, feeling that she helped fix it. And it was the same with this. She was very proud of me for getting up there and saying something, but she also felt that she had helped. And so I think now as she sort of heads into high school, I hope that I have provided that role modeling for her and.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (37:27)

data.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (37:48)

We do have a very open relationship. Who knows what the robust teenage years hold for us, but hopefully she knows that there’s no secret too big that she can’t share with me.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (37:59)

her empathy score will remain as high. that’s… Jo, you said to me you don’t need a large crowd, you just need the right people. What do you mean by that?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (38:02)

I hope so. I hope so.

 

So I think finding the right people can be a game changer. So for me, it is hard. It is part of the grief that you have to let go of some people. ⁓ But again, from when I had cancer, I remember someone telling me, you’re going to be really surprised by the people who step up and the people who step back. Focus on the people who step up.

 

And so I had learned when you talk about what lessons I’d learned from some of these other hard experiences, that was one of them. And ⁓ you learn to focus on the people that step up, but also the people who step back. It actually says more about them and it’s more about them than it is about you. So we’ve cancer, it might be that they have something traumatic. They don’t know what to say. So they’re just back away because it’s easier not to have to say anything at all. ⁓ With a situation like this, people

 

may feel unsafe to have anything to do with you because they might feel that they’re going to lose their jobs by osmosis, just by breathing the same air as you or contacting you to see if you’re okay. having the right people

 

DI GILLETT – Host (39:16)

in a line

 

definition

 

of a toxic workplace joke.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (39:30)

Right. But I mean, even beyond that, there’s friends who I think will you I see it as a gift, actually, because I know exactly who my people are now. There’s some what I’d call fairweather friends whose silence speaks for them. That’s fine. It is part of that grief. ⁓ But you learn to let them go and and learn to look at who steps up. And sometimes those people can really surprise you. They could be on the periphery of your life and

 

really play a central role through some of these more difficult moments. You know, when I think about the key people, I only because I needed to feel safe and because this was high profile in terms of the friends I had, this is these wonderful friends of mine who they knew something was wrong. This is before I went public. They could see it. They knew I wasn’t ready to talk about it, but one day I just.

 

I turned up on their doorstep, I walked into their kitchen, I burst into tears. I told them everything and they just hugged me and they have been with me ever since. ⁓ And I think some of the value that they bring is that when you lose yourself in these situations, they know you before and they can see you, who you are beyond this thing that has happened to you. And so I think it’s one of those things that sometimes when you’ve lost the confidence in yourself,

 

borrow somebody else’s until you can find it again. So they’re wonderful people. even, you know, I found this amazing Pilates teacher again, she didn’t know. She didn’t know the details of what I was going through, but she could see it in my body. And so she ⁓ she was also central. My lawyer, I had somebody who wasn’t just a game changer in terms of the law. But he was a

 

game changer in terms of life. And so now when I look at what I want to do with my life and have it purpose driven, he was a large part of that great psychologist. Yep. And then friends, old school friends that came out of the woodwork who knew me way back then. ⁓ And, you know, there’s parts of you just don’t change. You know, there’s no pretenses with people that have known you since childhood.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (41:29)

the give.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (41:43)

they reconnected and reached out. ⁓ I’d gone quiet on social media, I, you know, there was sort of friends and family who were sort of ⁓ doing their bit there. ⁓ So then there were people like my DFAT friends and they, again, they believed me because they knew me and they knew that you wouldn’t stand, I wasn’t somebody that would be standing up unless this is super serious and it had reached sort of this point. And they believed me and they,

 

came and made sure I wasn’t isolated because I think that’s one of the big things that can affect people in toxic workplaces is just how isolating it is. So not only are you gaslit and you don’t know what’s going on and you’re confused why this is happening and you don’t know who to trust, but often there are dynamics in play which cut you off. And so just someone walking, walking with me with the dogs, being with me.

 

There’s another person who I’ll forever remember. So a lot of senior, senior bureaucrats who I know quite well, I’ve never heard from again because it’s all so risky, but I’ve, I’ve had a long-term mentor who has been there throughout. And there was somebody that I didn’t know, senior bureaucrat who reached out to me because it just didn’t make sense to them. And they caught up with me a number of times and it wasn’t to discuss the ins and outs of the case. It was simply.

 

So I wasn’t alone. And the power of that, extraordinary, extraordinary and unexpected. And so I learned, you know, if anybody asked me for a coffee, particularly after I went public, there were people and people said LinkedIn. I’ve made real life friends off LinkedIn and met up with people for coffees because I learned to embrace these. These were my people. It’s a real gift. I know exactly who they are. And some of these people existed before and some of them didn’t.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (43:15)

and unexpected.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (43:37)

But these are people who share my values, who admire courage, ⁓ who may have, may or may not have lived experience, but these are my people. And so I actually, while it would be easy to see this as purely an exercise in grief, for me, it’s a gift. You don’t get many opportunities in life to find out really who’s cheering for you and who your people are. And I know exactly who they are now.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (44:03)

people are. So what is next for Jo Tonasky?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (44:08)

Well, it was never on my bucket list, but I have just launched my own business. I could have returned to diplomacy, but I think that thing that I talked about in terms of silence, I realized the value of my voice. I didn’t want to go back in the jar. And when you work in the public service, there’s a whole lot of rules around what you can or can’t do. And I couldn’t sort of just go on like this had never happened.

 

So I made a conscious decision to walk away from government and I wasn’t sure what to do next. took six months off. And if you’d asked me immediately afterwards, I would have told you that I just wanted to close this chapter of my life and move on. It was good to take the break. I got some good advice from friends that said, Jo, take a break. And I think they also know me that once I start work again, I’ll just dive straight into it. So. ⁓

 

DI GILLETT – Host (45:00)

Have

 

a reputation for handing two jobs at once,

 

JO TARNAWSKY (45:04)

Well, ⁓ but again, the people just kept reaching out to me and I was doing something without noticing it on LinkedIn. I was liking and commenting on posts. It wasn’t necessarily posting about workplace issues, but ⁓ I was liking and commentating on a whole bunch of psychologists and academics that were working in this space. people would reach out to me and they would say, thank you. ⁓

 

that they were following me. And obviously they were in their own situations where they couldn’t openly like or comment on these posts themselves. But by watching what I was doing, it was empowering them to understand what was going on. And so they could make good decisions for themselves. And so I think I hit a period around July or August where I thought, you know what, taking a leaf out of this, there is something. And if I look at my lawyer and the conversations we’ve had around living a purpose led lives that

 

positively impact people, realized that I actually had an opportunity that if I leaned into this, well, it wasn’t something I necessarily wanted to be known for. This actually had the potential to help more people. And I had a real opportunity to do that. So while part of my business is around strategic advice and I have clients that I help that is more to do with my traditional background in international relations and government, there is a public part of it, which is around

 

helping people understand what has happened to them. call it workplace recovery because it’s not just about individuals, it’s around people. So for individuals, I’ve actually recorded a video series. So trust can be a really big thing and people can’t articulate it. They don’t know where to go, where to start. But if you can, I’ve sort of seen myself not as the medical advice, not as the legal advice, but helping that building block of understanding this is what’s happening so that then people can make a better decision about what they do from there.

 

and leading them to a whole bunch of resources that I have found. Books, podcasts, some of yours actually die and make the list. Yeah, about people just trying to get them into a better place because this is sadly everywhere and it can destroy lives. But then the second part of that is actually helping organisations because I sort of feel like when helping individuals, it’s a little bit like putting a bandaid on a cut leg. What you want to do is

 

DI GILLETT – Host (47:05)

Fantastic.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (47:25)

stop the leg being cut in the first place. And so workplace recovery, maybe they’ve had issues or whatever, but it’s helping people understand some of these lesser known dynamics because things like it is high performing ethical people that are targeted. Once you know that it helps you be more alert to it. And like so many problems in this world, once you shine a light on that, it takes away a lot of the power.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (47:27)

place.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (47:51)

So if I can educate workplaces more on some of the things that I have learned ⁓ and to help them, then I kind of know you’re not just healing or helping the organization, but you’re changing lives. And so that’s what I’m going to do.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (48:10)

done you. Do you think you’ll ever get the chance to educate your old employer or would you like to?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (48:18)

I would love a chance actually to come and actually help the Parliamentary Workplace Support Service because as I said in my second press conference, my goal is not to destroy them. They are the best. They are better than anything we’ve had in the past. And there’s some really good people that are working there that saw the stories of Brittany Higgins and others that wanted to come and make a difference.

 

What has happened though is that the infrastructure has been set up to still protect the people in power. Now this happened in the UK and they actually had to adjust the independent mechanisms because they weren’t independent, which is what we’re finding here. And so there’s a real opportunity here for the parliamentary workplace support service, which is what came out of the, one of the things that came out of the Jenkins review and the standard to sort of learn some of the early examples of people that just talk to people like me about

 

How do we adjust this? Like to think that they would get it all right in one shot, it’s complex. know, this is decades of bad behavior that has been up at parliament. so learning that and making adjustments, because what I think it’s going to end up being is not seen as independent, not trustworthy, and that’s not in anyone’s interest. We want this to work. And so actually, that’s where I think I’d be more helpful is not just in terms of my own office and my own boss, but

 

DI GILLETT – Host (49:19)

.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (49:42)

in terms of the broader system because I do get contacted by parliamentary workers from every single political colour and also some of the public servants that are working on the hill or elsewhere, other pockets of the hill, not necessarily staffers. This is not limited to one office or one body.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (50:05)

Partisan

 

issue that needs a bipartisan approach.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (50:08)

Correct. Correct.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (50:10)

Well, Jo, thank you so very much for sharing your story on The Power of Women. And again, thank you for trusting me to talk to you about your story, because I know it has been an incredibly difficult stage in your life. But you’ve coped with tough things before, so you have proven the resilience and the strength that you have got to get through these.

 

and to move beyond and I wish you all the very best in your new business. And I know that there’ll be others who will benefit from the tough experiences that you have had and you can share some of that hindsight and help them moving forward. I do have a closing question for you today through the lens of the power of women and touching on having the right people in your circle. So for the woman listening who still might be searching for their circle,

 

How do we find them and how do we hold on to the right people?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (51:12)

I think finding them, part of that is that, rightly or wrongly, we call it women’s intuition, the people who make you feel calm and safe, ⁓ where your nervous system relaxes, where you feel that you can be yourself, who are actively cheering for your success and that they want to see you thrive. I think that’s the first thing. I think look for the people who step up ⁓ when you do go through hard times. ⁓

 

And then I think you need to be able to sort of give back to them as well. And you can find them in unexpected places. So they might be long term friends, they might be people in your life right now. But like I have also said, they can also be found online. There is a wonderful community out there and it’s people like you, Daya, to be honest. I hope you don’t mind me saying that you were one of the people that reached out to me.

 

while not exclusively have they been women, the vast majority of people who have reached out have been women. And so I think your podcast is aptly described ⁓ that sometimes there is real power of women ⁓ in supporting the successes and supporting people through harder times ⁓ to get through this life. You’re doing great work, Di, and I love

 

DI GILLETT – Host (52:33)

making me feel emotional now.

 

JO TARNAWSKY (52:38)

One of the things that brings me great joy in life is seeing other people thrive and live their best lives and particularly where they’re making an impact on others and you are doing all of those things.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (52:48)

and we look forward to you doing exactly the same, Jo. So thank you again, wishing you all the best. We are going to share the link to your new website. Is it joetanarski.com or is it?

 

JO TARNAWSKY (53:01)

Yes, it is. And you can find me on LinkedIn as well. I’m just starting up Instagram and a sub stack, so follow me there as well. But LinkedIn is where I have the biggest… Diving all in. That’s right. learned a lot. Brilliant.

 

DI GILLETT – Host (53:11)

Out.

 

Fantastic. Well, thank you for sharing. We will share that with the community. And for the listeners, I think this is such a super important episode to share with somebody in your network because we all have either somebody within our sphere or we have personally experienced tough times at work. the choice to speak out does not

 

come easily. know in my own life there is a scenario that I have never put out there into the public space because at the time the cost of speaking out, the cost of that was too high at that time. But you never know Jo, I just might have it in me yet. it is an example for individuals who need to bring something to the fore and right or wrong. Well done. Until next time.

 

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